I think I (30M) have figured out why people aren't interested in me romantically. I just don't know what to do to improve it.

So, my idea is that my problems come from the fact that quite simply, I'm boring. On the few dates I've been on, I don't show much playfulness or flirtation. I kinda just treat them like friends.

Part of this stems from a strong desire not to cross a women's boundaries and be someone who makes people uncomfortable.

The other issue is I can't think of what flirting would look like in the moment. I saw somewhere that "if you can make small talk in a drive thru or with a receptionist, you can flirt". The problem is, I... don't. The thought never occurs to me to say more than directly what I'm wanting.

I only really think of things when I'm around friends and comfortable. On a date is definitely not one of those times. What can I do to improve and make dates fun? Is it just controlling my anxiety and nerves, or are there things I can do to help me think on my feet?

TL;DR What are ways I can make dates feel like dates, and not a meetup with a friend?

Submitted April 30, 2020 at 01:00PM by ArtisticScholar https://ift.tt/3aT6Foj