First,my original post
So I'm back with an update. I followed a good bit of the advice I got which was mostly just drop it for now and try to understand my dad's point of view. I tried that. I dropped the subject of my sexuality and the girl,who I'm gonna call Alice. I tried doing normal family things again but everything just felt weird and tense and uncomfortable.
I've been talking to my sister and friend, and also Alice,though I haven't really told her about the situation. They've been helping me a lot.
I also want to make a few things clear that I think I wasn't clear enough about before. 1. My parents have known I'm bi for months. I don't know if it's just them finding out about me liking a girl that set off my dad or what,but they've never told me about this being a problem until recently. 2. I don't snap at my dad a lot. I told him to shut the f*ck up once during an argument and that's the only time I cursed at him. During the previous arguments I didn't get a lot of say in anything and even when I did it was just leave me alone and stuff.
So what I'm talking about happened a few days ago. I sat down with my parents to talk to them even though I was really nervous. I asked them if they had a problem with me and my sexuality or if it was just Alice. My dad got a bit upset and tried making excuses about why he didn't like her but I knew they weren't true. Like he tried to say she got bad grades even though I know that's not true. My sister also pointed out to me that even if it was true he wouldn't know,he's never met her.
At one point my dad just stopped making excuses and told me he doesn't want me with any girls,Alice or otherwise. I tried to ask my mom what she thought but he just spoke over her. I still don't know what my mom thinks because she just won't say anything,but I kinda think my dad won't let her? I'm not sure.
I asked my dad why he didn't want me to be with a girl and he couldn't give me a clear answer? He'd just rant about how it was unnatural and that I couldn't have kids with a girl,even though as I am now I don't want kids anyway.
This quickly turned into my dad yelling again and getting angry. I didn't yell back,I just kinda sat there and took it. I didn't see the point in trying anymore at that point because I doubt anything I could say would change his mind.
So now I'm at my sister's house because I was too upset at my parent's. She picked me up not long after the whole talk with my parents and has been comforting me these past few days. Alice and I have also been texting and calling each other a lot and it's been great. We're still planning on hanging out once quarantine is over and I'm really excited.
I didn't expect my last post to get as much attention as it did but I'm kinda glad it did. Thank you to everyone for the advice and kind words and the stories you shared. It helped a lot when I would just cry late at night. I'm sorry I couldn't respond to everything but thank you very much. I hope whoever sees this has a nice day :)
Tl:Dr My dad doesn't like that I'm bisexual and have a crush on a girl.
Submitted April 25, 2020 at 04:21PM by EdgyDisgust https://ift.tt/2W04Z6J
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