My [32] boyfriend [36] says he is more comfortable sharing thoughts and feelings with Facebook friends than with me?

My on off boyfriend of 3 years is constantly online - even when we are together his head is in his phone. He shares all his thoughts and feelings and everything new that happens in his life with his social media friends first. When I ask him why and tell him it upsets me and that he should share these things with me he says he doesn't want to share them with me and he feels comfortable sharing things with his followers online. He doesn't see anything wrong with it at all. He has many FB friends, thousands and most he does not know, he just adds people to have fans.

Most people would think I am a very good communicator and very understanding and kind, but he will only share things online. When we are together or on the phone I have to do all the work and he is in silence or gets annoyed because I am interrupting his online activities. If I say something he will look up annoyed and ignore what I said, then go back to his phone. Even when big moments happen in his life his FB friends know about it first and he write extensively, very long posts about his feelings, dreams, things that happened in his past and so on - and I know none of this stuff. He says he doesn't want to tell me.

I guess I am saying why does he need this external validation and can't share anything with me?

Tl;dr - my boyfriend is a compulsive sharer on Facebook and says he is more comfortable sharing thoughts with FB friends than with me

Submitted April 25, 2020 at 04:35AM by Chazin9090 https://ift.tt/2KvB5Cf