Im very hurt. This has been a common problem in past relationships. I always ask, "do you like my boobs? Do you wish they were bigger?" And when guys say yes, i get upset and cry and mad and emotionally cut myself off of the relationship. It didnt start this way, i used to think i would find a guy who prefers smaller boobs. But my boobs are a small B cup, so they havent been good enough for anyone yet.
Its been 6 years since my last relationship, im 30, i want a family, i want to settle down. I found someone and fell in love again about 5 months ago. Things were great and i made a promise to myself not to ask him how he felt about my boobs. I didnt want to trash the relationship with my insecurity. Its irrational to set myself up like that.
Well, i didnt have to. Three or four times in the last month during sex, hes asked me if i want a boob job. I always say "no", and brush it off. Today i finally had no more confidence left and asked why. He said he pictured me with bigger boobs, and said he loves my boobs, theyre perfect, but a C would be the perfect size. He said theyre perfect now, but just a little bigger would be better. He said please dont get upset and he doesnt want to offend me etc....
I cried and ive been crying for 2 hours and i dont know what to do. I thought this was the guy for me, now i think maybe not. He said hes never said that to anyone before in his life, and he agrees it was not okay to ask me that. I asked why he asked me and not other girls, and he says he doesnt know. I dont know how to feel about that. He said it isnt because they have bigger boobs, hes just never been in love before and hes never wondered or been interested, i guess. Maybe thats a compliment. Or maybe he doesnt love me, hes just infatuated. I dont know.
Hes apologized and now hes just waiting for me to either dump him or forgive him, but he said if i bring this up again after forgiving him, he will be very upset.
What am i supposed to do? Please help me.
Tldr: bf asked me if i wanted a boob job multiple times during sex, finally said he would prefer me with larger breasts (but doesnt care either way??). Please tell me what to do and how to feel. Im devastated but i wanted this relationship to.work...is it over?
Submitted April 25, 2020 at 08:59PM by 099786 https://ift.tt/3cPSJwE
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