My(25f) boyfriend(26m) and I getting serious, disagree on how to split living costs- help me figure out compromise

My boyfriend and I are getting more serious and have been discussing moving in together, marriage, kids etc. so here’s where we disagree- he wants to split costs of rent and such 50/50. I said I’d want 70/30 or 60/40- due to the fact he makes a significant more money than I do- and I also have a horse that I need to pay for. His argument is that A) my horse is a luxury and not necessary to live like how paying rent and stuff like that is and B) he is a first generation child of Mexican immigrants, and feels like his parents didn’t pick up and leave everything to come here for their son to take care of a white girl. (Not his exact words) though I do see where he’s coming from- he’s overcome a lot to be where he is and did it all on his own- I on the other hand dropped out of college, still live at home..was mostly handed my life and didn’t take advantage of what I had. I come from middle class suburbs and really had a cushy life so far with my parents providing for everything. I do work 6 days a week and am in online classes to get a degree which brings me to my next point.

I’ve owned my horse for 6 years, have been riding for 10+..my whole life revolves around horses. I went to college originally for horses. I work at 2 separate horse farms. So to me him saying my horse isn’t nessecary really upsets me- my horse came before him and is not going anywhere. I spend the majority of my pay on the upkeep of my horse (boarding him, shoes, vet bills, equipment). I say i can’t afford 1/2 the rent on top of 1/2 other bills because I have to pay my horse’s bills. I’ve tried to compromise by saying if he pays most rent, I can pay for groceries and other such supplies, do most cleaning, but he still says he wants 50/50.

Also, and probably the bigger point is I don’t know if I want kids. I really truly don’t know. I don’t particularly like kids, don’t know how to interact with them, have never been around kids ever. He knows he wants kids. I don’t feel very strongly in either direction, I just kinda feel like it’s what I should do once married, have a home, have kids. I don’t know if I want to sacrifice my body and what I do for a living for children that I don’t even know if I actually want. They just seem like too much of a hassle to have and take care of and I think that’s terrifying to bring children into the current world. But- I have pictured myself with kids and that doesn’t disgust me.

Honestly I’m just kinda lost and mostly looking for outside opinions and views and maybe different ways to compromise on the rent thing.

TL;DR boyfriend (26m) and me(25f) want to get serious and disagree on how to split rent and bills, unsure about children.

EDIT: thanks for everyone’s comments so far! Just want to clear some things up. I live rent free at home, true and I am very lucky they don’t charge me for rent. I have always paid for my horse and the bills that go along with him. Entitled? Maybe..but not lazy. I have no problems at all what so ever working- I work 6 days at two jobs. I dropped out of college after I got hurt in the barn and required back surgery- had always intended on going back to school but recovery was about a year and then life moved on. It’s still my biggest regret leaving college but I am taking online courses. I have told him I’d move my horse to a cheaper barn, even out of state if it’s close enough to still go. We live in New York. He lives and works in the city and has no car- I work and live on the island and I have a car. Finding somewhere cheap but still safe to live is a challenge

Submitted September 21, 2019 at 10:28AM by Discorico47026 https://ift.tt/30ik0oL