My partner (F28) and I (M30) have been together for 6 years, living together for 5 and have a 2 year old son. A few weeks ago she confessed to me that she was 95% sure she was gay, and was incredibly confused about what she wanted to happen.
Our sex life tapered off after approx the 2nd year, but it didn't bother me that much. We would have sex maybe once a month, but were affectionate in other ways with each other. I just assumed she had a low sex drive, which she didn't exactly deny whenever we spoke about it.
Fast forward a few years and we had a son. Kids were always something she wanted, and I made it clear that I only wanted 1. She pushed for more, but I was unwilling.
A few weeks ago, we sat down and she told me that she's is almost certain that she is gay. She said she'd experimented in her early 20s, but nothing more than that, however she had felt this way her entire life (including through the relationship) . She never mentioned breaking up. I broached the subject and she said she didn't want us to split, mostly for our child's sake but also because she still loved me, just not in a sexual way. Since then we have come to an agreement that we will stay in a non sexual relationship. There was no talk of open relationships or seeing other people (but if there was I'd probably shoot the idea down, I don't see open relationships as particularly healthy, someone will always get hurt).
I love her deeply, but I'm afraid that we will drift apart in future, or that she may meet someone and leave, or any number of things. I also feel that I need some level of sexual activity, and I feel incredibly guilty about that on account of her orientation.
I was sleeping on the couch for about a week, but we are now back to sharing a bed.
What do you all advise? I have so much emotions pent up right now because I have no idea how to process this. I don't want to blame her for this because you don't choose to be gay, but I also feel like I've been lied to the whole time and I just feel sort of broken with no idea how to pick up the pieces.
TLDR Partner has come out as gay after 6 years in a relationship, wants no sexual contact between us, currently still together and with a small child in the mix. What do?
Submitted September 23, 2019 at 11:16AM by throwaway20142019 https://ift.tt/2mdMZb4
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