She was rail thin when she was younger. Very underweight. And she was picked on. Told that she lacked tits and ass. From what I've seen, this is true, but hasn't been true for as long as I've known her. She was skinny-ish, but not so skinny that it was something where you'd classify her as petite. She's also relatively tall (5'9").
Now, I love her for her personality moreso than her looks, but I also loved her for her looks. Thing is, since we've been together (2 years), she's gained about 50 pounds.
First 20-25 pounds was great. I reassured her she didn't need to change her appearance for my benefit, but that I had zero complaints about a little additional meat. But then she reassured me she wasn't trying to change her body for me, but for herself to feel confident, as she was "too skinny." Hol' up now. At this point I wouldn't have even classified her as skinny, but just average. Healthy. Basically perfect. Sure, a little toning at the gym. But who was I to talk? Not exactly the hard body I was at 22.
Only it didn't stop there. She was and still is convinced that she is too skinny and continues to eat. And she doesn't want to go to the gym as whenever she does, her muscles tighten and she thinks it makes her look skinny again. I've told her that initially she will tighten and look smaller until she starts to build more muscle, but she (self-admittedly) has zero patience. So she eats more, and more, to try and escape being underweight.
Only now I'm pretty sure she's crossed the line past average to overweight. To be clear, she's definitely not fat. She's not even chubby. Moreso that she's starting to look "sloppy". A bit skinny-fat.. Her family has even commented on it to her.
Seeing herself in pictures, she's grossed out by herself. But she says that when she looks in the mirror, she doesn't see the same person she sees when she looks at pictures of herself. She sees herself as disgustingly underweight.
This is obviously a problem as her quest is to gain more and more weight and she's getting addicted to eating. It's starting to cause sexual issues as my physical attraction starts to wane. But obviously most importantly, I worry about her health. She's not thirty yet, but she's on the wrong side of the fitness road as she approaches that threshold.
How should I approach this?
tl;dr: Girlfriend thinks she's underweight (she's not) and is overcompensating to try and be average-sized. Now she's getting big.
Submitted September 23, 2019 at 02:36PM by total_insertion https://ift.tt/2lbZ28o
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