My (17F) best friend (17F) hit her boyfriend (19M). I want to have a talk with her about it but her boyfriend is begging me not to say anything and says he deserves it. Help.

Title is TLDR.

So my (17F) best friend (17F) is currently staying with her boyfriend (19M) and they live 2 hrs away from me. Tonight they got tipsy, but she was still in control of herself. He is very anti drug and has said in the past that he will dump her if she smokes weed. Before they got together she did it a lot and even though she really enjoys it she was happy to give it up for him. They've been together for 4 or 5 months.

Anyway tonight they had a couple of beers and she went to lie down, but came back out for a drink of water, and found him smoking a joint. She was incredibly pissed, as she gave up something she enjoyed at the threat of a break up, only to find him being hypocritical.

She told me all of this and I was sympathetic and understood her anger, but then she told me she slapped him. I was floored. She is usually an amazing girl and I am frankly absolutely disgusted with her behavior. But she also has the tendency to joke around and so I tried to ask her if she was being serious about slapping him. I never got a response.

Then an hour later her boyfriend snapchatted me (streaks) so I asked him straight out if she did slap him. He said yes, she did twice. The first was her, the second was because he asked for it?

So I asked him if he's okay ect and told him im sorry that it happened to him and that I was disgusted with her behavior and would be having a talk with her tomorrow. He started begging me to stay out of it and telling me it was his own fault ect, wouldn't listen when I told him it would be a different reaction if the roles were reversed ect.

He still insisted that it was his own fault and begged me to stay out of it.

I don't know what to do. On the one hand I am absolutely disgusted at her, completely shocked and downright pissed off that she showed no remorse about it when telling me about it. On the other hand it will be incredibly difficult to show her that it was wrong as she has been raised in a household where its normal for the female to be violent to the male as he 'is a man and will be fine', not to mention the fact that her boyfriend 100% believes he deserved it.

I still want to talk to her, I just need some guidance and advice. Thanks!

Submitted September 21, 2019 at 07:32AM by mochazebra https://ift.tt/2NouCMZ