Bear with me, this just happened and I’m in shock.
We have two young children. I am previously divorced from a really bad, abusive marriage. My husband is not openly bisexual but I know he is sexually attracted to men and women.
Our sex life is pretty good. It’s not daily or anything, but it’s pretty healthy. We both seem to enjoy it and we experiment enough to keep it enjoyable. He has mentioned being interested in a threesome at some point but has never pushed the issue past my comfort zone.
I stayed up later than him tonight and when I came to bed, he had fallen asleep with his phone in his hand. It was open to Grindr.
I didn’t know he had Grindr. He’s been a little uncharacteristically protective of his phone lately, and I just brushed it off. I didn’t dig through. I was half afraid of waking him up and half afraid of what I might find. As I closed the app, I saw that he also has tinder.
I just..I don’t even know. I feel like my world just got turned upside down. I got out of this shit marriage a few years ago. I met my husband and we had a great relationship. I’ve dealt with many other shitty situations since, but our relationship has stayed pretty strong.
How do I even confront him about this? What do I say? I can’t believe this is happening.
Here’s the kicker-he started becoming protective of his phone a few months ago after I started down the road to possible diagnosis with a degenerative disease.
I don’t know. Part of me feels like this is my fault. If my health is deteriorating, maybe this is his way of coping? I’m so lost.
TL;DR: Married, 2 young kids. Husband is bi. I thought our relationship was happy and I love him very much. Just found he’s been browsing Grindr and Tinder. Don’t know how to address it. Please help.
Edit: it’s probably relevant that I’m going to be out of town in a few days for about a week. I’m wondering if he was planning on taking advantage of my absence. Also, I have scheduled a marriage counseling appointment. I have not talked to him yet as it is very late where I am and he is sleeping (I should be but I can’t).
This fucking hurts, guys and gals.
Submitted July 23, 2019 at 10:16PM by husbandwanderingeyes https://ift.tt/2Mcd7xK
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