Yesterday I found out that my father has been cheating on my mother again.
Yesterday my father asked me to help him file something on his phone, this happens often because he doesn’t speak the language from where we live good enough, you can understand him but he makes mistakes.
While helping him file something he had to also type his ID-number in it, so he got his ID-card from his room. When he went to get it, he left his phone unlocked with me. Me and my mother have had the suspicion for the last weeks that he might be doing some shady things, because some days ago he left in the morning not telling anyone where he was going and was away for a long time, which he has never done. But also because he cheated on my mother 10 years ago or longer, I was a small child back then I don’t remember the details. Me and my mother thought this was done and behind us, that he learned his lesson from the first time. It seems that he didn’t.
When he left to get his ID I quickly checked his Facebook, Messenger and Instagram (I know this was wrong, but we have had our suspicion, and this was a golden chance to learn the truth). What I found dissapointed me. He has a Facebook account under a completely different name, and he has been talking to different women including a 24 year old woman. I could only understand small bits of their conversation, because they were talking in another language. He started the conversation with that woman, asked her how old she was, and introduced himself. This was one of the conversations, I couldn’t check the other ones. His friends list is full with very young girl, I didn’t see any men in it. Plus he blocked me and my little sister’s Facebook account so that we couldn’t find his profile, I had to make a different one to view it.
I also checked his Instagram, and it’s also under the same different name as on Facebook. He has been posting soft-core porn on it, and has been following only women with I would guess also +18 posts based on their names and profile pics. And it’s his profile for sure, because he posted a video on there that I saw him filming some weeks ago.
I told my mother about this, and she was very angry but also dissapointed like she expected it. She’s planning on confronting him in a few days about this. We’ve been talking on about how we’re going to do it, and I guess he heard one of our conversations, because he deleted his Facebook account, everything was on private so we didn’t lose much, but that means he probably also deleted all of his conversations. His Instagram profile still exists, he probably forgot that. I have made pictures and video’s of his Facebook and Instagram account for when he decides to delete everything, so that we can use that as evidence against him when he denies it.
She talked with her sister about this, and what she said really made me angry. She said that she has to let it go, because most men are like that, and that making a big deal out of this won’t help. My mother isn’t planning on listening to her thank god, but how can she even say that. Just because marriage is very sacred in out religion doesn’t mean he get’s a free pass to do shit like this.
If it were to me I would say that she should file for a divorce, because their relationship is just a mess at this point. They hate each other, but they still don’t want to divorce for the sake of the kids.
This whole situation has made me lose a lot of respect for my father, and at this point I actually hate him.
How do I handle this situation? Any advice for me or my mother would be appreciated, cause when we confront him this will be a mess, and I wouldn’t be suprised if the police would get involved (again).
TL;DR: Father cheated on mother again, and I don’t know how to handle this, especially when we confront him about it.
Submitted July 28, 2019 at 12:26PM by oioioiboy19548 https://ift.tt/2GxQkc0
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