Everything was FINALLY perfect w/ my bf [25M] of 5 years and I [23F] after we worked through a cheating incident. I found out yesterday that it had happened more than once. Can I somehow stay and retain my dignity?

My BF - Joe - and I have been together on and off since I was eighteen. We met in the beginning of uni and were very passionate right away, but also immature. We broke up a bunch of times, he wanted to be a young college dude and he hooked up with lots of girls,

Fast forward 5 years later. Him and I broke up last year after he became increasingly distant; turns out he was harboring a secret from me - that while we were on the verge of breaking up 1.5 years prior, he’d spent the week with his female BFF having sex. He said it only happened twice while they were drunk.

Since that revelation, things were hard, but he really put in the work to show he’d changed. Things he was bad at before - communication, openness, vulnerability - became a priority, and so did our relationship. I’ve been really happy.

Until yesterday. I found out from someone that he’d cheated with that same girl not only then, but two years before that. When confronting him, he admitted to that and to making out with two girls 6 months ago and sleeping with one other in 2015. He said he was afraid to admit to every single incident cause he was scared I’d leave.

He’s truly remorseful and I know that if I let him, he’ll put in the work to earn back my trust. I genuinely think he’s at a much better, more mature and vulnerable point with me than ever.

BUT - am I just a loveblind idiot? This person has been so much to me for the last 5 years, and he has consistently fucked in his young age. I want this to work, but I’m hurt, and I don’t know if I’m being absolutely ridiculous for considering keeping him. Please tell me your thoughts Reddit :(

TLDR; bf had lied about frequency of past cheating but has really changed. Is there any way I can stay, or would I be an idiot?

Submitted July 30, 2019 at 12:19AM by always_elsewhere https://ift.tt/2Kbn7Vn