We move in together, two days later a cop is at our door. We all become friends. Now my boyfriend is jealous.

My boyfriend and I moved in together after dating for a few months. Two days after moving in we were standing on the balcony and a cop was parked right in front. The cop came up to our balcony and started a conversation. This cop is around our age (I am 22 and my boyfriend is 25).

He ended up becoming our friend. He added my boyfriend on Facebook, then Instagram. He then added me on Instagram. Because this cop works night shift and since my boyfriend and I stay up late every night, he usually comes by to get something to drink or just talk while he’s on his way home around 3 AM.

One night my ex-boyfriend had called me and I knew I had to put the harassment to a stop (this had been going on and was severe). I went to bed early that night because I had to be up early the next morning. When the cop came by I was not awake. My boyfriend talked to him for several hours and had expressed my concerns in regard to my ex-boyfriend. The cop gave him advice and told him what could be done in terms of handling it legally. The next morning, my boyfriend told me about all of what was said but it didn’t make sense to me so I said that I would reach out and ask him to explain. I did this in our group message and he said he would come by or that I could call, and he gave us his number.

I reached out to the cop via text to initiate a time to call. Our schedules started to conflict and I was going to bed earlier, so we didn’t meet for him to explain right away. No personal communication, strictly professional. He then added me on Snapchat. I told my boyfriend about this and that I did not add him back.

My boyfriend started to feel like this cop was trying to talk to me in more than just a friend capacity or that he had some sort of interest in me.

One day recently, my boyfriend was in Florida and I received a text from the cop saying “are y’all up?” I responded to him that my boyfriend was in Florida and that I was awake but going to bed soon. I immediately called my boyfriend to tell him what the cop had texted me. The cop then responded and said “Well if you are going to sleep soon I will try to come now so we can talk about the no contact order for your ex.” I then called my boyfriend back and told him what he said and I asked him if he would be mad if he came over. I told him that we would sit on the balcony and I would not allow him to come inside. My boyfriend said “I trust you, I’m not there to witness what happens though, so id have to take your word on it.” And I said “he is on his way so I need you to tell me if it is okay or not.” He said “I’m not gonna answer that.” I then said “he just texted me again and he’s here. I love you and I’ll call you when we’re done talking.”

When I went outside, the cop told me that he was glad he had a chance to talk to me alone because he was going to go through a questionnaire on domestic violence. He did not want my current boyfriend to influence my answers in regards to my ex boyfriend because he did not know what all my current boyfriend knows and what he doesn’t know, and therefore did not want to put me in an uncomfortable position. He was there for almost an hour, completed the checklist, got a case number, and explained what happens next.

TL;DR - We did not go inside the house. We did not talk about anything else. We were outside for an hour. I called my boyfriend when I went back inside. I showed my boyfriend the texts and explained the reasoning behind why he wanted to speak to me alone. My boyfriend is still mad and is telling me that I should no longer speak to the cop because there are clearly no boundaries. How should I handle this? Am I in the wrong?

Submitted May 05, 2019 at 08:14PM by caramelempanada101 http://bit.ly/2H0026z