Hey all. I finally caved in and I just want some help/advice, anything. I feel that it's interfering with my day to day life at this point. I have been with my bf for around 6 months now and we have been best friends long before that. We love each other very much, as young as we may seem to some. Spending time with him is amazing, he's my best friend and boyfriend and we both deeply care for one another.
However, I do have a problem. Simply put, whenever he's not around I start overthinking so much. For example if he hasn't texted me for more than a day I start jumping to ridiculous conclusions. "Is he ignoring me?" "Have I said something?" "Is he avoiding me?" "It takes him 2 seconds to text me a "hey how are you" so why hasn't he done it since yesterday?" "Who is he with, what is he doing?". I hate myself so much for it. At least I acknowledge it but I don't know how to stop this horrible toxic pattern, that in the end is just hurting me, my relationship and above all is so consuming for my mental health and time. I know that none of the questions I ask myself are true, yet by overthinking them over and over I start slowly believing something that isn't real. Maybe it's my insecurity acting up but then again he never gave me a reason to be. It is all in my head. The thing that triggered me to post this is that yet again I caught myself overthinking. Last I saw him was yesterday around lunch when he came over at my house and he hasn't talked to me since more than a day. Even as I'm typing this I realise how stupid I must sound but it doesn't stop the intrusive thoughts from happening.
"But OP, why don't you talk to him if you're so desperate?". I basically end up convincing myself that if I did I'd just bother him; he hasn't talked to me despite being active on social media so that must mean he just doesn't want hear from me, no? I always assume this for some reason.
I've talked to him before about it but at this point I don't want to bring it up anymore because I'm sure he's just at tired as I am to always reassure me and say that there's nothing wrong. And it's true, there isn't. I do admit I may be a little needy sometimes but I feel that this issue is beyond that. Please, what can I do to help myself?
TL;DR: I want advice/help on how to stop overthinking every single thing my boyfriend does when not around me, as it is affecting me and my relationship.
Submitted May 04, 2019 at 11:19AM by KindArmadillo3 http://bit.ly/2vBiSvv
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