English is not my first language:
My GF(28F) and I(29M) planned a trip to a beach earlier this year, and I've been planning activities for us to do every day we are there. We are both very athletic/fit people (we both exercise about 14 hours a week) and we enjoy hiking, climbing, swimming, endless walks any physical activity you can think of you name it we’ve done it. Because of this the places we are going to visit in our trip are loaded with activities we are comfortable doing and enjoying.
Now, I’ll change their names but enter Romeo and Juliet (late 20s), the couple my wife invited to come with us to the trip. I like Romeo and Juliet as people, I enjoy having conversations with them individually and as a couple they are very nice people I can say I’m grateful my wife has such nice people in her social circle as friends.
Having said that, Romeo and Juliet are more of a Netflix, chill and fast food kind of couple, which is totally fine I don’t want this to sound like I’m implying any type of shame on them. Everyone is free of doing whatever they like in their spare time with their hard-earned money. I don’t like the idea of spending time two couples during the trip because I’m aware they will just slow my GF and myself down, even when walking, we both have a fast-paced walk and we don’t mind walking what other people consider long distances and prefer to drive/uber.
As I’m typing this I’m aware that I’m angry at my GF for inviting them to come with us and I’m looking for ways I can deal with the situation. My GF has invited other people to join us in several activities when in the city which I’m totally fine with it, but she’s never done it for a trip. Thinking about it, it would be totally fine to invite other people to a trip with us if the place where we are going wasn’t so packed with tons of walking and other physical activities. However, this is not the case and as for now I calmly told my GF that we needed to have a serious discussion about the trip.
I don’t want to just accept the fact that the other couple is going to slow us down every day in most of the places we visit. I want to come up with some sort of way for my GF and I to enjoy the trip without getting her angry, and without sounding/behaving like and asshole towards the other couple. What I’m most worried about right now is if I will resent my GF in the future if things don’t turn out like I want them to.
TL;DR My GF Invited another couple to join us in a trip. The other couple is going to slow us down and I don’t want to resent my GF after the trip.
Submitted May 27, 2019 at 01:30PM by jmo_joker http://bit.ly/2QstxCg
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