I(24M) just left my fiancée (22F) of 1 year due to continued drug use, should I have stayed to help?

Me and my X fiancée have been best friends for about 10 years, when about a year ago we finally got together to which we both felt like fate. I love her to bits and would do anything for her.

We live about 3-4 hours away so often she'll go out when I'm working and that's okay.

Me and my girlfriend both used drugs, me very much less so, I wouldn't use cocaine, but her use would be bi-weekly of usually cocaine but could be ketamine or MDMA.

I don't have an issue with people using drugs in their free time if they use it in a responsible manner, and have the ability to say no when they have to.

The issues started arising when I realised in how poor of health she was, she has kidney and chest pains on a regular occurrence and stage 4 hypertension.

We had a series of fights centred around the coke/drug use, with me asking her to reduce, and eventually for her to stop. Which she agreed to, agreeing her health was poor and it wasn't helping. I told her it was a big deal and a Redline. I feel like when we discussed it, she didn't believe that drugs could actually kill her.

The next night she goes out and uses coke and I find out and we have a big fall out. She thinks I'm overreacting and plays the if you loved me you wouldn't leave me. I'm guilted into staying and she agrees to completely stop all drugs.

A few months later she's gone out, and the next morning she texted me she has been taking to hospital. She mixed her prescription drugs with alcohol and passed out. When she got home that night her friend wanted to leave her passed out on her bed, but her boyfriend said no, luckily she was sick with her friends boyfriend there and he took her hospital.

The next morning I was obviously upset but she played the card that she thought I meant illegal drugs. So she agrees to a blanket ban to all drugs and this would be a red line and I'd be off if she did any.

Fast forward to last night, I left her with her friends at about 1am being tired. In the morning I see she was on Facebook at about 7am so knew she'd been on something. I went to pick her up and asked. She confessed and I said this is the end.

She told me that she didn't care about herself, and if I loved her it wouldn't matter. I feel so guilty and just want her to get get better, but how can I help someone who doesn't want my help. I feel like all the redlines don't matter, and she broke a promise to me.

I'm so sad because despite this I loved her to bits, she was my favourite person who I wanted to spend my life with. I'm just conflicted.

Tl:DR - Fiancée continued to use drugs even thought she promised not to, feeling conflicted about how it ended

Submitted May 27, 2019 at 08:36AM by JimSlimbentmydimdim http://bit.ly/2I2D539