My mom (F45) asked me to give her my son so she can addopt him and lied about him and told people she addopted him from an orphanage

Backstory first since it's my first ever post: I (F24) have a son (M1), his father is on another continent since we met during school 3 years ago and decided to keep the the child and raise him. Due to financial issues for the past 2 years he wasn't able to return to us, we keep in touch tho. He isn't the problem since he stands up for me and tries to calm me down and all, this is just backstory.

My mom (F45) is my problem, since I was a kid nothing I did was good enough for her (I'm the black sheep), when my son was born she asked me to give him to her for addoption so I can "continue to play the role of a student in a big town", of course I declined. She dragged us to my hometown where I had to live with my family, she also demanded on monthly payments of 60% or more of my income to savings for our future since they provide everything I need which doesn't actually happen because I always bought food and other stuff for the house hold on top of my sons needs.

This addoption thing keeps popping up and I eventually ended up moving in with my grandmother further away from the city. She visits us every weekend and it drives me nuts. All she does is point out how uncapable I am, how I'm a fat loser (a bit overweight really), how I can't raise my son and many more. I also have some mobility issues(sciatica) that I haven't yet treated due to not being able to see a kiropractor being far from any major cities and she gives me hell for walking funny.

When my son was 2-3m old we talked about me going back to school in one way or another and I started preparing for my entrance exam since I had to quit my former studies and my job(I supported myself when I left home the first time) and this time I wanted to pursue my dream career. A month ago she told me how it's a waste of money and time and how someone has to be the poor person in the family and not everyone has to go to university (she suggested I work in a factory on minumum wage).

This isn't the first time she did this to me, it's the 3rd time she vouches to help and bails. Recently I went in town for a doctor visit and bumped into a co-worker of hers and she complimented me on spending time with "my brother" and went on to say that my mom is such a good person to adopt a kid that is basically "unadoptable" (my son is mixed race wich is rare on my side of the world), I eventually confronted her about it and she admitted to doing so claiming it was better this way and hopes I'm ok with it.

I went to talk to some relatives about it and found out she lied about several other things as well,all regarding my son and me(his birth, my health and wellbeing, she told my relatives I begged her to take us in).

I need advice, I wanna move out, I wanna enrole to uni as far as possible, even a different country and run away with my son. I made a sort of plan but I'm afraid and anxious and need to hear from others that made it out. Thanks.

TL;DR My mom (F45) asked me to give her my son so she can addopt him and lied about him and told people she addopted him from an orphanage

Submitted May 04, 2019 at 09:05AM by Carenwithc http://bit.ly/2H1Y0UE