My husband and his parents regularly rag on my SIL (their sister/daughter) behind her back. His mother and sister were visiting us, and she can apparently do no good.
Anything she says--she's lying. Anything she does--she's only doing it for herself. She reorganized our daughter's closet in the most fantastic way possible, and it's still somehow her doing it out of selfishness. She mentioned that she has severe back problems, and she's making it up for attention.
I've only met her a few times, and have nothing but good experiences. I understand that her family knows her better than I, but I find this whole process frustrating.
If I defend her in any way, I'm told to stop defending her because she's selfish. If I don't say anything, I'm told, "yeah, you get it."
It's the weirdest thing. Do I just... not say anything and pretend to go along? I understand that it's the easy way out, but I've already been scolded by MIL and husband for inviting her back anytime, because no one wants her around. I feel like it's confusing my relationship with her, and I don't want to shut out a person who loves her niece and apparently doesn't know that everyone hates being around her. I enjoy talking to her and having her visit. Apparently I very much shouldn't.
To note: I don't feel like I'm thrown under the bus as, "OP doesn't want you to come." It's entirely their spiel, and I just go along with whatever happens. Clearly, she can still come visit anytime, but everyone else hates it and I'm supposed to hate it, too.
Tl;Dr I wouldn't mind having a good relationship with my SIL but her family seems to hate her and vocally disapproves of my attempts.
Submitted May 03, 2019 at 11:38AM by recercar http://bit.ly/2Y7lhKK
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