I have an average paying job and have been working really hard to save up recently. I live with my grandparents at the minute and pay them rent even though they don't want me to. I love my grandma so much, we are very close and she is a mother figure to me. However my grandma is a total war baby and is obsessed with saving money and not wasting anything and so if I ever buy anything she makes me feel like shit. This happens probably 3/4 times a week, if I walk through the door with a coffee in my hand or I wear something she hasn't seen before or if I am eating something that she didn't buy... Examples:
I went to the grocery store the other day and bought some food that I like to eat because I don't always eat the same foods as they do and there are things I like that I want to have in the house eg granola bars, yoghurt, etc. My groceries totaled no more than $20 but she nags me when I come home like "why do you buy all this unnecessary stuff when we have food in the house??? I thought you were supposed to be saving up????" I tell her that I can afford $20 on groceries and am still managing to save and that i'm earning this money to buy things that I like but she continues to belittle me and make me feel like shit.
Another example is that I ordered a new swimsuit on amazon for $10 and got it delivered and she starts going off at me again when it got delivered saying "You are so bad with money you can't resist spending can you?? You don't need this stuff you have so many clothes!! You're trying to save!!!"
I'm getting beyond annoyed because this is my own money that I am earning at work and I'm paying her rent and have a few thousand saved up and I am absolutely not living beyond my means. I have snapped at her several times over the last few months because I'm sick of her making me feel like shit, I know she just wants the best for me and wants me to save up and have a bunch of money but I am an adult and if I want to buy a new swimsuit I shouldn't have to have it delivered to a friend's address to avoid getting yelled at at 26 years old! It also doesn't help that my younger brother [20] often brags about having a lot of money saved - he is very frugal and will rather walk for 3 hours than pay for public transport/taxi. Grandma often compares - eg "[brothers name] doesn't spend anything he has X amount saved and he never buys anything online". I'm planning on moving out toward the end of the year but until then what can I do :(
TL;DR - I'm earning my own money and paying rent to my grandparents and have money saved up but if I buy anything (even something as little as $1) my grandma nags at me telling me I am bad with money and makes me feel like shit.
Submitted May 04, 2019 at 01:48AM by cakegirl321 http://bit.ly/2ZXboRu
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