I’ve been with my husband for 4 years, married for 4 months. He has had a very close friend since high school, we can call her Mary. I guess that they hung out a lot before we started dating. When we started dating we naturally started spending more and more time together. I have no jealousy over him having friends that are girls. His other girlfriends are so lovely and I always enjoy spending time with them. However, Mary is pretty rude to me whenever we get together. One time she knocked me in the face and my contact fell out and she didn’t even acknowledge it or say sorry. After we got engaged we went to a wedding for a couple who I would consider as our closest friends. When she saw me she simply said, “Oh, you’re here.” Well yes, yes I am attending a wedding with my future husband.
My husband is a homebody and I am constantly telling him to go out and invite Mary out so that they can continue their friendship. I have never once hindered their relationship. I feel that she thinks I tell him not to spend time with her and that is definitely not the case.
When we finally got married, she couldn’t make it because of a “meeting.” Maybe that is the truth, but for your best friend you think you could make Saturday night wedding that was planned over a year in advance.
I have heard rumblings of her talking badly about me but I try to brush it off because I’m bone tired between work and school and this wasn’t even on my list of things to spend my energy on.
Anyway, I have tried talking to my husband several times about how I don’t feel like I’m treated well by her. He ignores the issue and says it doesn’t matter what she thinks. I wanted him to tell her that if he’s not spending time with her, that’s of his own volition and not by my orders. How else can I explain to him or get him to understand that the way Mary treats me is hurtful?
Sorry for the ramble, just a tad frustrated!
TL;DR: my husband has a best friend who happens to be a girl who doesn’t care for me or my existence and my husband won’t do anything about it.
Submitted May 02, 2019 at 05:25PM by lbere88 http://bit.ly/2UW8San
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