My [29F] girlfriend of 3yrs is overly emotionally dependent, is it selfish of me [29M] to want an “easier” partner?

My partner is loving, caring, very proactive to making sure I feel loved. She sees a psychologist and a psychiatrist for a few schemas she has and has been warned she may develop bipolar type 2. She is on antidepressant medication. She hates being told what to do by anyone - including her bosses/managers - and this means she has a tough time enjoying work and has done with most of her managers. She relies on me and personal touch to reset her whenever she is overwhelmed or hurt from the day which can be frequently. Overall, she just wants everyone to like her and be nice to her and gets very upset when this doesn’t happen.

It comes down to this, I’m concerned how this will manifest in the future if we have kids together who require the spotlight rather than her. Im concerned I will burn out by having to be her emotional crutch due to having a heavy work life myself.

Im under the impression that life will be much harder with her as my spouse than life with someone who does not have mental health issues. Is it selfish to want to take the road that leads to an easier life throwing away all of our past 3yr memories? Is it selfish to take the personally easier road?

Or am I saving myself from what could be a a life of being 2 parents in 1 and having an extra child instead of a teammate as a partner when we have kids?

It's not necessarily the mental health issue that is the problem, that is perfectly fine - I'm sure we all have our own issues, but her feeling hard done by or vilified when things don't go her way all the time is the issue.

[tl;dr] i feel selfish for wanting a partner without mental health issues. I love her but worry I’ll burn out and wonder if life would be easier with another partner.

Submitted May 02, 2019 at 06:43PM by Footballfanatic9011 http://bit.ly/2PMXxZs