I don't mind if he likes to game to pass the time, on occasion! But I do not like how he rushes to get the kids in bed so he can smoke pot and game, and if we have a night free from the kids he will just have a huge gaming night.
Work comes and goes and when he is working he does work hard, but when he isn't working or is without work, his night time routine is gaming and smoking until very late/ early hours of the morning and sleeping in until 11am, leaving me to wake up to the kids every single morning ( it has literally been months since he got up before me once and let me sleep in, and before that one time it was months before the last time too.
I get cranky at him for this and say that this isn't the lifestyle that I wanted! As I said earlier, I get it on a night we are just chilling out and doing whatever, but it's literally every single night and someitm for a few hours during the day. It isn't even in an open area where he is still a part of the daily activities or routines, it is in a dark room with headphones on and a mic. I also feel like he is probably someone completely different to the online world, almost like an alter ego that would be a total stranger to me.
When I ask him about it, either he says he understands but nothing comes of it or he says it's because he doesn't want to be around me because I nag (ironically about his gaming and the kids doing stuff as a family).
Sometimes it is strictly a night time thing and during the day we do stuff, but it all feels like some kind of show so that he can't feel guilty when he does go into his den. Again, dens are cool occasionally but we never get to hang out and watch a movie or have a nice dinner or just cuddle etc.
Why does he do this? Am I being unreasonable? Are we not compatible ( he may prefer a gamer Girl), and when do I say enough is enough when I would be ending my family if we broke up?
TLDR: CLASSIC case of bf smoking pot and gaming way too much, literally daily for hours and every night. We have 2 kids under 4 and I never get to bond with him. Feels like I don't know him anymore and that his gamer personality would be a stranger to me.
Submitted May 05, 2019 at 08:03PM by LadyLavish http://bit.ly/2V4yeTE
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