I (33F) needs to tell my (38F) ex-bestie that I can no longer attend her birthday celebration but I’m scared of her.

I’ve been friends with this woman since April and she recently “broke it off” with me because I’m “selfish” and “boy crazy”. I’ve noticed a pattern of abuse from her so I was relieved to finally be cut loose.

It’s been about three weeks since the “break up” and she recently reached out to tell me she still considers me a friend and wanted me to attend her birthday celebration in another city for a weekend. She mentioned before that she did not want couples attending for God knows why. Anyway, I recently started seeing this guy and it’s going well. She told me I could bring anyone that I wanted so naturally, I said the guy I was dating. She said okay.

At 3am the next morning, I get a wall of text that basically says she was cool with him going but she’s not anymore. She says it’s her birthday and that it’s not a “romantic getaway” for me and the guy I’m seeing.

The funny thing is, she told me earlier that night that she invited another couple to go. I didn’t know what to say except he was excited to go so it’s disappointing but it’s her day and she can do what she wants.

Clearly, I don’t want to go at all. She bullies me and continuously puts me down for being “selfish” when in actuality I have an anxiety disorder so I tend to worry a lot about my behavior. She also says I’m “boy crazy” because I like to have male attention. That part might be true but I don’t see how my dating life effected the friendship.

I’m nervous because she’s very vindictive and I’m worried she’ll retaliate somehow. Either by not giving me the money is has borrowed or by ruining my reputation somehow.

Anyway, my question is, how do I tell her I’m no longer going? And when? The event isn’t until the first week of October.

TL;DR How do I tell ex-bestie I’m not going to her birthday event? I’m worried she’ll get mad when I tell her and retaliate.

Submitted August 28, 2018 at 09:44PM by MeowKat84 https://ift.tt/2MWAKLC