The title is shocking. I know. Where do I even begin?
So, my family has always been dysfunctional, unproductive and negative. Not a positive and healthy household. Everyone has something serious wrong with them. My younger brother and I never really clicked. I actually never truly connected with any of my siblings or parents. There isn't a loving family dynamic that most people strive for here. There never was.
Anyway, it all started about a year and a half ago when I noticed that my brother hardly initiates a conversation. I would always chalk it up to him being an introvert. But, I would always be the one that would start a dialogue. It wouldn't be a two way conversation because I would be doing most of the talking. My other siblings also noticed his behavior and accepted it. I was curious, very curious.
I thought an experiment was in order. I told my sister (19F) that I would completely stop initiating conversations with him and would wait for him to engage first. How long will it take? I asked myself as hours passed, days, and then weeks! This is when I started to worry a little. Why is he not speaking to me? That's when I overheard my sister and him talking about why he doesn't talk to our cousin. He said, "there isn't anything to say." No, there was no bad blood between them at all. Him and our cousin never argued or fought. He simply had nothing to say to my cousin. That was odd.
This realization was a real eye opener. His brain is wired in an extremely unusual way. I thought, "If he does not speak to me, it must be because he has nothing to say." Nahhh, that can't be. There had to have been some things he wanted to tell me over the weeks and months. Then it must have been him feeling awkward that so much time has passed without me speaking to him. Since I usually start a conversation, he must have been waiting. But, i'm his brother. Why would he feel the need to wait? We sleep in the same room!
I say this again. We never understood each other, but also never hated each other or anything like that. My experiment began with us on neutral ground. My only guess is that he has no interest in me at all. He never really has. That does not make me sad because my family was not built on love or compassion. Just survival I assume. I wouldn't be surprised if we never spoke again after moving out of our parents home.
I ask you Reddit, why has he not initiated a conversation after all this time? Why has he always been like this? What are your valuable thoughts?
TL;DR: Brother never initiates conversations. So I stopped initiating as an experiment to see how long it would take. Over a year later, he still hasn't initiated.
Submitted August 29, 2018 at 04:23AM by BestExplanation https://ift.tt/2PNJemM
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