So we’ve been dating for 1.5 years and have been living together for over 3 months. It’s a great relationship. We fit together really well character wise, sex life is good, we have the same goals in life and have full support from family and friends. Our communication lines are always open and we often speak out affection towards each other.
We both have a similar past of one serious relationship and a period of casual sex. While we have stated that we don’t necessarily have the desire to know the details of each others past love and sex life (it was me who said this first), sometimes she will say things that still hurt me.
Like when she was on vacation with me, she will reminisce about her ‘most fun’ vacation which was a drinking and party type of vacation, to a location which is not known for it’s cultural background so to speak. Or she will tell me about one particular night when she was younger where she drank so much she almost blacked out and danced/kissed with a bunch of dudes, which her girlfriends had to remind her of.
Last weekend I surprised her with a weekend trip, a nice dinner at a restaurant, a card and some gifts for her birthday. She seemed happy and said so multiple times but then at the end she says something like ‘in a weird way I don’t feel like it’s my birthday, as I used to go party for my birthday.’ She then quickly added ‘but this weekend was also a party to me.’. I still felt like shit that she’d say something like that after all the effort I put in to surprise her.
These moments are few and far between but I always make a mental note for myself. I also have quite a sexual past but I try to divulge as little as possible. Is it weird for me to feel like shit and insecure at these times? I don’t want to feel like the guy she settled down with. Meanwhile all she talks about is our future kids, buying a house and growing old together.
Tl;dr: gf sometimes makes remarks about her past partying life and it makes me feel like shit. Am i insecure for it?
Submitted November 01, 2021 at 05:03AM by Lemonade2310 https://ift.tt/3EDz8xk
No comments:
Post a Comment