My [22M] gf [22F] of 3 months wants me to go to dinner with her parents after our last one was not very good, but I do not want to go, which is straining our relationship.

My girlfriend (22) and I (22) have been dating for about 3 months now. I honestly do not have many complaints about our relationship, aside from her mom.

Around 1 month ago, I met her parents for the first time. We had dinner together at my gf's apartment. Her dad was polite, but her mom was insufferable. Throughout the evening, she would insult me numerous times. How she didn't want her daughter to date a paraplegic (she actually used a more offensive term). How she didn't want her daughter to date a nerd (I skipped a couple years of school). How she didn't want her daughter to date the son of an evil man (my dad was an investment banker). How she didn't want her future grandkids to be the children of an evil person (I just started a career in fintech). How she didn't want her daughter to date someone who has never had to work hard and has everything handed to them on a platter (I still worked hard, even though my parents could pay my way through life). She insulted almost everything about me, from my parents, to my disability, to my career, to my past. About 1/3 of the time, my gf would stand up for me, while the rest she would just try and change the conversation. I thought her mom may warm up to me over time as she barely knows me. After the dinner, I went home to my apartment and cried, what she said really got to me.

Yesterday, my gf's parents invited us to dinner at their house. My gf really wants to go, but I do not want to go. She said it would be fine, but I felt otherwise. So, I suggested a compromise: We both go, but if her mom makes many of those comments, we leave. That didn't go over well. She said that would be rude of us to do that and how I am not respecting her wishes. I said it doesn't feel like she is respecting my wishes as she was there when her mom made all those comments and I offered (what seems like to me) a perfectly reasonable compromise. This led to a tense argument and raised voices. She has been angry with me ever since.

Lately, I have been contemplating breaking up with her over this. Or am I just overreacting? Can I suggest a better compromise? Am I just being a bad boyfriend?

I would appreciate all advice. Thanks

TL;DR: My gf wants me to go to dinner with her parents, but I do not want to go, because last time we had dinner with them, her mom kept making mean comments towards me.

Submitted May 25, 2021 at 03:27PM by Key-Elephant-2000 https://ift.tt/3yOJ8C6