I found Grindr on my boyfriends phone

I (18F) found Grindr on my (23M) boyfriends phone. We were sitting in a park and I noticed as he was on his phone that Grindr was installed.

I asked him about it and he said that since he got a new phone the apps from his iCloud had been installed, and hadn’t gotten round to deleting it. I found it strange because he had since deleted Tinder (that we met on.) He told me that he hasn’t got an account but the app is just downloaded.

He told me that he was confused about his sexuality and didn’t know what he felt. He said he knew he loved me and that he had never spoken about this to anyone.

I’m not upset about his sexuality, but I am upset that he is on a sex app while we’re together.

Even worse, I noticed as I scrolled down that he had a notification from Grindr. The settings on his phone meant that it doesn’t show the messages from any apps. I asked him about it as I couldn’t read what it said and he told me that it was an app update. Later he told me he had actually received a poke from someone. Meaning he has an account. He later told me over text that he had been using it to jerk off.

I knew this was starting to become something that I didn’t want it to be. I began to wonder has he been messaging people? Does he feel confused about being gay? How can I help him? Is he cheating on me?

I don’t know how to act sensitively towards this situation. I’m hurt over the fact he has potentially been seeing other people. I’m hurt that he might be struggling with his sexuality and I can’t help him. I really love him but I don’t know how to help him or understand.

TL;DR I found Grindr on my boyfriends phone and I don’t know what to do about it

Submitted June 23, 2020 at 12:54PM by thiccyyviccyy https://ift.tt/2NrNRDe