Can I (26F) hope to change my family's regressive mindset? Or should I just reconcile to the fact that I will never quite have the happy relationship with my family that I wanted?

Growing up I always noticed several toxic mindsets that my family supported and propagated but I never said anything cus I felt it wasn't my place to speak up about it. Now that I am older and independent, I actively counter my parents whenever they say something oppressive, sexist, or racist. This has led to some pretty bad fights.

After a lot of fighting and rebelling, my parents have given up trying to force their beliefs on me since I made it very clear that I won't give in to their judgemental way of life. Now, I am living happily and authentically and I have built a very successful life for myself. But in the eyes of my parents. I am an undisciplined deviant who ruined her life by rejecting her family's principles (especially since I'm not yet married and in my culture marriage is like the ultimate aim of life for a woman). They are still a huge part of my life and I love them, but everything they say is underlined with criticism and it really pisses me off.

Should I waste my energy in trying to make them understand that their way of life is unhealthy and that there are other ways to be happy apart from being a slave to society? Or should I continue living my life and just let them be? I just feel like our differences have built a rift in our relationship and it makes me really sad that they can't just put aside their social standing for the sake of their daughter's happiness.

TL;DR: Is reasoning with my family to see past their social conditioning a lost cause?

Submitted June 25, 2020 at 05:52AM by the_panda_ninja https://ift.tt/2VhHeYe