My (30M) wife (29F) has become a super-overprotective mother since our 6 month old daughter was born to the point where she won't allow my parents to look after her because in her words "I don't know them well enough to trust our baby girl with" My parents are so upset. I don't know what to do?

I feel caught between a rock and a hard place right now. I have been with my wife for 6 years and married for 3. We finally decided to have. We had such a wonderful relationship and have all the same hobbies, she's a real tomboy and loves playing video games and watching football with me. But since our wonderful little girl was born that has all gone. I can barley believe how much my wife has changed in such a short period of time. Her soul focus is our daughter which I understand she is and always be our number one priority but she won't entertain doing the things that we used to. She just wants to spend all day with our daughter. She's also developed all sorts of irrational fears about things happening to her so she feels the need to be with her all the time. She is six months now so if we follow advice it's time for our daughter to sleep in her own room instead of with us but my with won't entertain the idea at all and insists it could be a year or so before we do that. And when I do persuade her to go out our daughter is always babysat by my wife's parents. But when I say that we need to give my parents a turn she just flatly refuses saying she doesn't know them well enough to all that but she knows her parents will do a good job. I replied that I could say the same thing that I don't know her parents well enough but know that mine are great , I mean they raised me the person she's in love with. but my wife just says that since she's the primary caregiver (she stays at home and looks after her while I go to work) that it's her decision. I am so shocked she said that and honestly believe six months ago she would never say anything of the sort.

My parents are so sad about this and my mother cried to m on the phone about it. Even after lockdown ended where i am and the grandparents were allowed to see our daughter again my wife wouldn't even allow me to take our daughter to my parents for a few hours. I love my wife but I am defending the in-defensible here. I realise she probably has some sort of mental problem maybe post natal depression or something but she won't hear a word of it. If I try to say that the way she is acting isn't normal she just gets angry and accuses me of being a lazy and neglectful parent who wants to palm off our daughter. I haven't a clue what to do.

Edit- I want to add that my wife has always thought both of my parents were great people. She worked for my dad for 8 years which is actually how we met. She always told me what great person he was and that he was the best boss she has ever had.

TL;DR- My wife has irrational fears about our daughter and will barley let her out of her sight. She won't allow anyone other then her parents to look after our daughter

Submitted June 26, 2020 at 03:25PM by AllenHubbard4 https://ift.tt/2NzznRW