Close friend tells me he feels for me but isn't breaking up with his current girlfriend. Why does he tell me this? It makes me feel bad. (F-26) (M-32)

So, I am dealing with a situation I don't know how to deal with and I don't understand why I was really told what I was told.

So, I had an online/long-distance boyfriend for years who I felt strongly for and was dedicated to. Back at the end of March I had to go to the ER and almost died from blood loss caused by a uterine fibroid. I was sent home after being given multiple blood transfusions. The only actual cure for this is a Hysterectomy. I told my boyfriend about what happened and said that I may need a hysterectomy because of this because otherwise this may kill me. I told him I was afraid. He was apologetic and concerned and said that hopefully the covid-related restrictions will be over soon so I could get the surgery. After that we had a normal conversation and I went to bed.

He never signed on again after that. He hasn't signed on or been around, I have no idea what happened. I'm badly hurt by this and really feel like I am undatable because of my condition. I still miss him but I have given up on him returning.

I have a long-time friend i've known around 14 years. He knew about my bf and was with a gf of his own for about two years. I don't have any friendship with his gf as we don't get really have much of anything in common and she's just not really that friendly. Like, shes the type that'll come over with him to your house but not even greet you and will only talk to him. It's pretty uncomfortable,haha.

The two of them moved in together about a month ago along with their pets. I was sad to see him move out of state but we still kept in touch online. One day, he asked me if my bf had ever come back, I told him sadly no. After this he told me that he was realizing he was missing me perhaps more than he should, beyond just a friendship level. I asked what he meant he told me he is realizing even as a friend, I showed more warmth to him than she has as his partner.

She doesn't clean, she leaves her own dishes/cans around so it gives him extra work. He works a regular job but she only works on the side from home so in general, she is home more and would have time to help him more she's just,not. She also doesn't initiate affection. He says she only does act affectionate with him if he acts that way first and he doesn't want to be the one doing all of the work in the relationship. He talked to her about this but she blamed this behavior on her ex, saying he would push her away at times if she tried to cuddle with him.

He told me last week that he feels he needs to wait things out and see if things get better first as he does care for her but said if they don't,he would like to pursue things with me romantically.

Why would he tell me this? I don't really understand. I am still hurt by my previous partner disappearing so I don't really need to be given hopes for something that may literally never happen. I don't have alot of dating experience so i've never encountered something like this...

TL;DR : BF ghosted me shortly after telling him I may need hysterectomy, don't know if its coincidental or not. Very hurt by this. Long time friend says if things with his current gf don't work out,he'd like to date me. Isn't currently planning on leaving her right now,waiting to see if her behavior improves. What do I do here? Why was I told this?

Submitted June 25, 2020 at 11:35AM by shadoweon https://ift.tt/3ez77e1