Me (21F) and my bf (21M) are reaching 3 years of being together on May 31. He is very loving and treats me really well, and we have a great relationship. The entire time we’ve been together we’ve both been broke college students with shitty part time jobs. I never expect or ask him to buy me expensive gifts or take me to expensive restaurants, because I know that it’s difficult for both of us to afford those kinds of things at this time.
I’m still working a part time job during the national emergency, but my bf was laid off. He’s about to start receiving unemployment and he’s going to be getting a LOT of money each week, about 6x more than he usually made at his job. He lives with his parents and just pays for his car payment.
I know that I have absolutely no right telling him what he should spend his money on, but he decided to use it to pay off his car (which is great!) and buy a motorcycle. Throughout our 3 years together, we have never once been on a fancy, romantic dinner date (candles, dressing up, the whole shabang) and for anniversaries and birthdays I usually receive more sentimental/handmade/Knick knack type gifts, which I always adore. However, since he’s going to be getting so much extra money, I asked if he could maybe splurge on me one time and take me to a fancy restaurant for our anniversary where we both dress up and drink wine and all that. We’ve never done anything like that before and I just wanted to experience it one time.
He’s now very mad at me, telling me I’m materialistic for asking for that and telling him to spend his money on me. I never told him not to buy the motorcycle, just to put a little bit aside for our anniversary. Am I in the wrong for asking this of him?
TL;DR My bf and I have never been on a fancy date together and I asked him to take me on a fancy date for our 3 year anniversary after finding out he’s about to start making a lot more money, and now he’s upset with me.
Submitted April 23, 2020 at 09:36PM by hobbitsgotomordor https://ift.tt/2Kw8DA0
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