My [23F] ex [25M] has gone straight to the girl he always told me not to worry about following our break up. I’m so hurt

My ex and I were together for 6-7 months. He’s one of those “commitment phobe” types and in all honesty never really gave me the consistency and investment it would be fair to expect in a relationship of that length. But we had insane chemistry and a lot of fun together, so even when it took him a while to make things exclusive I was patient with him and gave him the benefit of the doubt.

About 2 months into our relationship (when we still weren’t exclusive) he mentioned that he had “briefly dated” another girl a few months back but that he had sat down and ended things with her as he only saw her as a FWB to fill his lonely void at the time. Fair enough I thought, not a big deal.

A few months after that however (about 4-5 months into our relationship) I saw a Snapchat notification pop up from her on his phone. I straight up asked him about it and he said “yeah she sends me random snapchats every so often but I never reply”. I asked him why he doesn’t just unfriend/block her then and he said “it would be too mean to do that when she hasn’t done anything wrong”.

Soon after that he admitted the truth was that he actually ghosted the FWB girl by message when he met me, as he “didn’t think it would be right to be talking to two girls at the same time”. But that she had continued to try and reach out to him via Snapchat and Instagram ever since (bit desperate in my opinion?!). My boyfriend reassured me though that “she’s not important, you are” and “you have nothing to worry about - if she thinks I’m interested she’s crazy”.

However, he broke up with me a few weeks ago and according to mutual friends he slid into her DMs (or started replying to some of her desperate attempts to reconnect) not long after. So they are in regular contact now (although doing COVID19 is isolation atm). It hurts and feels like such a slap in the face. Really don’t know how to get over this right now :(

Tl;dr: my ex has reconnected with the FWB he ghosted to be with me. He always told me she was nothing to worry about when she continued to try and contact him throughout our relationship, so it feels like a massive slap in the face.

Submitted April 24, 2020 at 10:23PM by jogolodo https://ift.tt/3aDV5x9