Lately, I dread spending time with my gf. I’ve been having doubts about our relationship. We were long distance for a while, but she recently moved to be closer to me. Things were actually great while long distance; we spoke on the phone regularly and we were a great comfort to each other during stressful times.
Now, she has made this big move to be closer to me and I feel tremendous pressure to make things work. We are getting to that age where our friends are getting engaged and that is definitely in the back of my mind. We have had a conversation about what our long term goals are. I told her I wasn’t sure but that I felt as strongly for her as I had ever felt about someone. But I just wasn’t sure, because we had been long distance for so long. So we decided that we would try things out for a year and see where we stood.
We’re about two months into living together and I don’t feel the way I think I’m supposed to feel. When she snuggles up on me and shows affection, I feel like a real shitty person for not loving her back as much as she seems to love me. I constantly think about how sad she would be if I broke up with her. We broke up once before (several years ago) and it was the only time I’ve ever seen her cry. I know it would be worse now.
We are super compatible in real life and on paper. Similar interests, similar values, etc. She is really pretty. But I just don’t find myself that attracted to her anymore. I’m worried that I’m just projecting my own baggage onto her and that’s the reason I’m not attracted to her. Or maybe the spark is just gone and I shouldn’t fight it! I had a dream the other night that we were getting married, and I felt an overwhelming sense of dread. That I was basically sacrificing my happiness because it was the “right” thing to do.
How can I figure out whether I still love her? Am I thinking the grass is greener on the other side, but I’m wrong? Am I just overthinking everything right now because of the world situation? I don’t want to waste anymore of her time if we’re not meant to be together. She’s a great girl and she deserves someone who loves her completely. We’ve both discussed that we hate men who string a girl along for too long and then dump her.
Please help me sort myself out. I feel like I need an outlet (therapy or something, I don’t know) but it’s hard to get that right now with quarantine. Have you ever felt these feelings before?
Tl;dr my girlfriend loves me more than I love her and I don’t know if I want to stay with her to spare her feelings or because we are good together
Submitted April 24, 2020 at 12:38PM by MrPeanutButter6969 https://ift.tt/3cK8KnG
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