I (M 25) am getting incredibly impatient with my girlfriend's (24 F) behavior towards me and am unsure what to do.

I am a 25 year old masters student graduating in a few weeks living in the same city as my current girlfriend of 2 years. I unfortunately have to live with my grandparents during quarantine, and my girlfriend is too afraid to visit me during this time. That is absolutely fair of her to say, but the distance and time apart has magnified some of our problems.

The issues start with the fact that my girlfriend is currently in nursing school. Of course, I am very proud of her for pursuing a path that will help so many people and I try to be as supportive as possible about it, but she is one huge stress ball. She has a particular way of studying, where she begins to prepare weeks in advance and studies essentially all day. Nursing school is very difficult and her course load will continue to get worse for the next year until she graduates next May, so I completely understand her concern. However, I am not sure how much of her stress I can continue to absorb, because she often deflects her emotions back on to me. She'll complain about work or how she has a migraine every few hours, and I offer words of support (ex. everything will be ok; just keep going, ill be here for you). When I do so she gets angry at how "unhelpful" I am being and goes radio silent for hours at a time. She will even take her stress and start attacking me and my character with zero warning. For example, I help her write her assignments when I can and she will yell at me about how my edits are wrong. Or I will complain (once every few days) about an assignment I have to do for school, and she call me a mixture of lazy, unmotivated, or even "lazy fuck/lazy piece of shit."

I have been growing tired of her attacks and behaviors, as it is taking a mental toll on how I view myself and how helpless I feel. When she gets in her stressed moods, there is no talking reason into her. I have addressed this multiple times after her outbursts, how her actions are unacceptable and I deserve some respect as I am only trying to help. She understands my side, apologizes, moves on, and does it again the next day. I've brought it up at least a dozen times in the last few months and I feel like I am repeating myself constantly. I am far from perfect and can be unmotivated, but I KNOW for a fact that I refrain from calling her names/attacking who she is.

I just don't know how much longer I can hold on. I will be looking for jobs soon and might moves cities away from her and she has another year left of school. How do I approach this situation? I don't want to change who she is and she often tells me that I have to accept how she handles schoolwork, but I just do not know if I can take it any longer. In addition, I am someone who likes to figure out fights/disagreements immediately and she is someone who needs time alone to get levelheaded. Not sure how that factors in.

Also, I'm writing this after she just hung up on me and wont answer my texts from an outburst.

TL;DR: Girlfriend is in nursing school for another year and I could be moving soon for a future job. Have brought up her behavior and occasional outbursts towards me when she's stressed for school many times with her, with no changes. What do I do?

Submitted April 24, 2020 at 05:51PM by throwawayaway889222 https://ift.tt/2x6Xz9q