Can anybody explain the behaviour of my (23M) girlfriend (22F) when I was with her family at Christmas?

I have been with my 22 year old girlfriend for about 4 years. We have lived together for the past 2.5.

Since knowing her, I have never spent Christmas with her family. This is mostly because I go visit my Mum instead as she would otherwise be alone at Christmas. However, my girlfriend has always wanted to be with me at Christmas and, as a result, she has not spent Christmas with her family for the past few years either.

This Christmas we spent Christmas with her family. This was a combination of because I thought it was fair considering she has missed the last few and because she was practically begging me to go.

I got to their's a couple of days before Christmas (It is quite a long journey) and the days leading up to it were pretty normal - just like any other visit. There was nothing of note, and everything was going well.

However, on Christmas day itself this happened:

• She barely interacted with me all day (I put this initially down to just wanting to socialise with her family which seemed reasonable).
• On the rare occasion she came near me, she ignored most of what I said.
• She spilled her drink over me accidentally. When I informed her, she said "no-one cares" and went back to ignoring me.
• After not seeing her for hours, she sat next to me and said something incoherent. When I asked her what she said, she angrily said "drop it" and sat elsewhere.
• Later, I asked what was wrong. She told me not to talk to her.
• I spent the rest of the day talking, drinking, and having fun with her family. I viewed this as quite an achievement because up until that point I had never really felt a part of the family. Out of the blue, she messaged me saying that she was (sarcastically) "Happy your having such a fucking good time with my family" and that nobody cares about how she feels.
• I somewhat snapped at this point (in text), and told her to sort out her attitude as I had given her many chances all day to say what was nothing her and she was being nothing but hostile towards me (and only me - she was perfectly fine with everybody else).
• When I was heading off to bed at about 1am - many hours later. She intercepted me and had what can only really be explained as a "meltdown". She started shouting and then locked herself in the bathroom. When her Mum stood by the door to talk to her, she swung the door open into her Mum, then said that she hoped it was going to hit me instead.
• I went to talk to her alone. She demanded that I left her Mum's house. I couldn't be bothered to argue, so just got my bag and began walking in the dark to the nearest town.
• About halfway to the town, somebody approached me. It was her Mum. She had driven around looking for me and insisted that I come back to the house and stay as her guest, not my GF's guest.
• I got back to the house and my GF's Mum fetched me a duvet and pillows for me to sleep on the sofa.
• Shortly after I had lay on the sofa to go to sleep, my GF stormed into the house and screamed at her parents for letting me back in. When they refused to kick me out at 2am in the morning, on Boxing day morning, when it was 0 degrees Celsius outside, she ran off.
• Her uncle went off to find her, and I also got out of bed to join him.
• We followed her onto a main road where we then lost her. We searched for about 20 minutes before turning back.
• We found her hiding outside the house.
• Her uncle talked to her and told me to just go back to bed. I did.

The following morning. She essentially refused to acknowledge that anything happened. She was hungover and throwing up in the toilet and asked me to come in to help her as she usually does. When confronted by me or any member of her family about the night, she didn't respond. Her Mum asked her to apologise to me and to the other members of her family that had to stay up dealing with her in the early hours of the morning, she refused. To this day, she still hasn't explained to anybody what was wrong, apologised, or even mentioned what happened. Any attempt is just met with ignorance.

Does this sound like familiar behaviour to anybody here? Can anybody explain whatsoever what happened? I am still completely dumbfounded.

TL;DR: GF insisted I went to her family's house for Christmas. I did. She seemed to hate that I was there. She caused a massive scene. One month on, she doesn't even acknowledge that it happened.

Submitted January 27, 2020 at 01:44PM by 9423042900 https://ift.tt/2RxlS7U