My f(27) and my fiance's m(27) friends have tried to convince him to leave me due to my disability

Hi everyone,

I'm finding all this very overwhelming so I will keep it short.

They have been our shared friendship group since we got together 8 years ago. I've had a disability for about three years.

I recently found out three members have tried to convince my fiance to leave me on multiple occasions, purely due to my disability. They basically said they don't see the point of staying with a disabled person and they want him to be happy. He assured them each time he is happy and it is his choice to stay with me.

They are all acting as though it is normal that they would try to convince him to leave, and that I'm overreacting by being upset. They've also stated they wanted "what was best for both of us" which I think was pretty obviously not true.

I'm just trying to get some clarity here because I'm feeling very confused and worthless. I have myself given my fiance the option of leaving many times and said i wouldn't blame him, but he always said he wanted to stay.

Is their behaviour normal? Is it OK for me to be upset?

Thanks in advance

Tl;dr : group members have tried to convince my partner to leave me due to my disability. Is that normal, and is it OK for me to feel upset.

Edit: a lot of people seem to be interested in precisely what the disability is. As explained below it is rare enough that given the friends in question are redditors I think it would possibly stop the post being fully anonymous. To answer in depth questions: it is a physical disability, no it is not at all weight related, I am following all the medical guidelines possible regarding healing though not everything is known about this condition. Yes I am trying my best, no I am never abusive towards him, yes I am able to emotionally support him when he needs it. Yes he has to help me physically sometimes for example pushing my wheelchair and making the majority of meals. No it is not expected to get worse over time although nobody can know for sure. Yes he has to emotionally support me too when anxiety or grief about this condition get to me. Hopefully that now gives everyone enough information to go off.

Edit 2: thank you for all the lovely validating replies. It is nice to know not everyone thinks about disability in the way they do.

Submitted May 03, 2019 at 04:43AM by Throwitallaway96874 http://bit.ly/2H0aQlk