My (35F) husband (40M) of 12 years has come out as gender non-binary (to me) and I am not sure how to deal with it.

My husband and I have been together 12 years and have three children. We both work fulltime, me in an office and him from home.

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I knew he was bisexual when we met and had no problem with it.

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Recently he started talking about how he has never had the chance to be his "authentic self" and until he can he can never be happy. He has a lot of issues around sexual acceptance of being bi from a religious child rearing and none of hsi family know. As I said, it's never been a problem me.

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So he has started to work on his authentic self, which I supported. He has now told me that he dfeel like he is gender-fluid and non-binary, and feel equally man and woman. I have always loved his artistic and eccentric side (he is wildly creative, kind and compassionate, and an amazing father), but sometimes lately I find it it grates on me a bit and I don't want it to.

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He has started wearing my nailpolish and taking my clothes, like a pink skirt I have to wear around the house (not outside). He makes comments all day about how lucky I am to be biologically a woman, and how he loves all things girly. He spends ages on his grooming (fine) and insists on shaving his legs/ chest and armpits and that hair is gross. He has just become to flamboyant and I am much more of a quiet night of reading or watching a movie, not home mani/pedi parties and dance parties.

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I am not homophic, and I love that he is open enough to trust me.

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TLDR: Husband has come out as gender-fluid and I am struggling to find my role in the marriage with two feminine people?

Submitted May 06, 2019 at 12:42PM by confusedwife5619 http://bit.ly/2PTgZ6L