My [29M] girlfriend [25F] got mad at me for asking her to add my name to her bank account that she wanted us to share and deposit our money into.

Me and my girlfriend of 2.5 years, recently moved in together properly. She lived with me prior, for the remainder of my lease for 6 months, after she ran from her parents home (ran is the best way to put it). I kept paying for everything as I was prior to her moving in, and had her just cover groceries.

We recently found and signed a lease together. She came up with the idea of using this bank account she had, as a shared one. We would both deposit our share of the monthly expenses we agreed upon, into that account. She also got a credit card from that bank and wanted to add me as an authorized user on the Credit card. All was well, I didn't have any complaints whatsoever.

As we were talking about the account the other day. I passively asked her to add my name to the shared account (as I thought this was something that should've been done already). She threw up an eyebrow. She wanted to understand why I was asking for that. I told her simply, since this is our shared account it only makes sense my name would go on it as well. She didn't like that answer we argued a little then time passed.

Today the topic came up again and I asked for the same thing. This time she is pressuring me to give her the real reason why I'm asking for this. I don't know what other reasons beside the fact that this is supposed to be a shared account, it only makes sense. This grew into a large fight. She tells me she feels hurt, she feels as if I'm indicating that I think she'll steal my money (WHAAAAT???).

I'm sitting here lost and confused. To me this shouldn't be a conversation. The fact we are going to share an account, where we're both depositing money. Shouldn't it go without saying, that my name should be on the account as well. It's not whether I trust you or not, it's the principle of the matter. And of course I trust her. I have given this girl $1000 before when she needed, without even asking when I will have it back. That was before we dated. (She gave it back)

Am I wrong here? Did I offend without realizing? I'm always open to learn and apologise when I'm wrong.

I'm pissed now because she has this tendency of saying the worse shit to me when she's mad. She stormed off telling me how much she hates me, hates every second with me. Not the first time she's said this (This is for another post).

Edit #1: added relationship length.

TLDR; GF got mad because I asked her to add my name to an account she has and wanted us to use as a shared account. Where I would be depositing money into. Said she feel like I asked because I don't trust her.

Submitted May 05, 2019 at 11:05PM by thedreamkid007 http://bit.ly/2J41xnM