I (27M) am "happy" in my relationship. I love my girlfriend (27F), but my physical attraction has faded. When another (attractive) girl gives me attention it sticks with me and I think about them for a long time. I like spending time with them and it feels wrong. Is this normal?

I really do love my girlfriend. She is lovely and gorgeous and the best thing that has ever happened to me.

Body wise, she has some issues that she is currently struggling with that I will not detail too much here. It is largely not her fault and mostly a result of her genetics and she is dealing with it the best way she can. I respect and understand that and I only want to support her. The issue is that while I accept these things, I find her less attractive than I used to. I have pushed away these thoughts for a long time because it doesn't matter when you love somebody, right?

Well recently I have been struggling with this a little more than usual. A few times in the past few months I have been at social events and have had attention from other girls. It feels really nice. It, frustratingly, feels more satisfying than my OH telling me she loves me etc (maybe because I know that already and take it for granted). I will get on well with these girls and have a good time, of course not cheating, but enjoying their company in a way that I expect my OH wouldn't like. I will not cheat on my OH, though I expect this will be classified as emotional cheating.

My problem is that I don't want to feel this way. I want to be fully satisfied by my OH and I really don't want to lose her. She knows about her body issues and bringing it up would likely crush her because she is trying hard and has low confidence anyway.

Is what I'm going through in any way normal? Have others experienced similar and come through the other side, putting it down to just a "phase" of the relationship? What's the best thing for me to do right now?

Tl;dr: less attracted to my OH than I used to be, really enjoying company of attractive girls who give me attention, feeling guilty about this and just want this to end and to be happy with OH. What can I do?

Submitted May 07, 2019 at 05:44AM by thatguywithpenis http://bit.ly/2DVC23P