I (27F) have some pretty attractive female friends (26-28F), but I'm sick and tired of hearing about it from the men in my life (25-30M)

Basically what the title says, but I’ll get into it in detail:

Overall, I’ve been a fairly secure person with my looks. Through middle school and high school I wasn’t anywhere near the most attractive girl in my school, but it never bothered me. That was 10 years ago. My looks have changed a lot since then, I guess my body finally caught up to my age so I look more like an adult now though still petite. I think I look better than I did in high-school for sure so I have at least that “confidence” going for me....well I thought I did until now.

My friends since grade school are beautiful! And that isn’t a bad thing. They are amazing friends to me.. Some of my closest friends that I would choose as bridesmaids if I ever got married. But I’m so tired of hearing about how beautiful my friends are 24/7 from my close male friends, and my boyfriend, and even my girl friends themselves.

For example, I have a friend, Sarah, who should be one of those Instagram / social media fitness models. She is naturally very skinny, but has a very strict and regimented work out and eating plan that she is very dedicated to. She’s also naturally gifted with a bottom half (a butt, yes), which I don’t have at all. She’s constantly being stared at, people constantly try to be with her, and she’s constantly talking about how so many guys are into her. She’s also married with a wife, so her interest in all of these men who lust after her is nonexistent. I don’t know if she talks about it and doesn’t realize what she’s saying, but recently it seems like she’s always talking about how guys were trying to come on to her, or talk to her, or show interest in her.

Maybe I’m picking up on it since it’s been bothering me, but I’m so sick of hearing about it. It makes me feel like shit because I don’t have, and could never have, her body without surgery. Just yesterday she was talking about her vacation she took this weekend, and thought it was so funny that the guys were so into her at the party they were at. I kind of want to be like “We get it, you’re perfect. Now stop!” but I fear this is my own insecurity and not a problem of hers. Even my boyfriend makes comments about her body and how perfect it is. I’m like I know…. Thanks for reminding me.

Another friend of mine, Allison, has sexually been with many of my male friends I introduce her to. It’s more of a “hey! This is my great guy friend, Paul!” not an “I’m going to hook you up with my male friend Paul” arrangement. It happens, she tells me about it. He tells me about it. Whatever. It didn’t bother me until this weekend when my other friends asked me why Allison gets all the guys and I don’t. I said I didn’t know and I don’t want or have a say in who she’s with. She’s another one of those naturally perfect-bodied people that guys seem to love. My friends even mentioned how they think her body is incredible so that must be why the men love her. Again, I know I’ll never have that so when even my other friends pointed it out this weekend it made me feel like shit. She doesn’t brag about it though, but it’s still annoying to know in the back of my head. I’m sick of my male friends asking me to hook them up with her. I’m so over it. I don’t need the validation from my male friends that I am decent looking, but I’m tired of being told about Allison from them.

These are only 2 recent examples of a couple friends, but there are way more instances and friends than that. There are so many more but I didn’t want to make this too long. My friends are beautiful! It’s not my problem, but it’s affecting my self-esteem.

Reddit, I know this was mostly venting, but I feel like my close friends, who are incredible friends to me, are indirectly making me feel insecure about myself and doing a number on my self esteem. When your own boyfriend is even making comments about your friends you know it’s bad (or good? Lol). My BF and I are really rocky so I think that has something to do with it, but I wish for once in life someone would be like “hey! She’s okay too!”. Do I take a break from hanging out with them and listening to especially Sarah talk about her self….Do I ask her to stop? Make some backhand comment next time she does it? Do I confront my boyfriend on it too? I know saying anything would make me seem terrible but I'm sick of feeling like the ugly friend. It's made me start to take a double, triple look in the mirror and want to get 19 surgeries on my face. I don't like how it's affecting my relationships with my friends and everyone either.

TLDR: My friends are too pretty. makes me feel like shit. Sick of hearing about how beautiful my friends are from everyone in my life.

Submitted May 02, 2019 at 07:44PM by IWannaBePrettyToo http://bit.ly/2GYI4CB