I (21F) make my partner (21M) of two years cum every other day, if not more, and I haven’t cum in 2 months, and I asked him if he could please try and he screamed at me to use my vibrator instead.

My bf and I used to fuck 2 or 3 times a day for a year and a half straight, and every single time he’d make me cum afterwards since I can’t usually cum from sex. However, he has only tried ONCE this entire semester to make me cum after sex, bc he is just “too exhausted,” and he does “all the work” during sex. I give him blowjobs every other day, and usually suck him off for a while to get him hard before sex, but I guess none of that counts as “helping do the work”. Lately, I’ve just been extremely sexually frustrated, and I’ve been trying to use my vibrator, but it really isn’t the same as having a partner who loves you WANT to make you cum bc they WANT to give you pleasure. I tried expressing this to him, that it’s not even about the orgasm, it’s about feeling connected to him, and him wanting to make me feel sexy and wanting to make me cum. I want to make him feel sexy, and make him cum all the time, but it isn’t reciprocal at all. Lately I’ve been having a lot of self esteem issues bc I put on ten pounds and now this is just making me feel worse. I’ve voiced all of this to him, and today we had sex for the first time all week, and I was so excited thinking that he would help me cum afterwards since I’ve voiced everything. I made sure to do ALL the work during sex so he wouldn’t be “too tired,” but he came and then said he had to go run errands immediately after. I was visibly upset and he yelled at me about being angry all the time, and to just use my vibrator if it’s SO important that I cum. I told him I just needed some sexual attention and he said that he gives me attention all the time. I said yes I appreciate that, but I need you to make me feel sexy and wanted sometimes too. I tried to hug him and tell him I loved him before he left, but he just rejected me and left.

I guess I just want some advice about what to do. I’m really frustrated, and I love him, but this doesn’t seem fair at all.

TL;DR! I make my boyfriend cum all the time, and he yelled at me for asking him to help me cum after a 2 MONTH wait.

Submitted May 02, 2019 at 11:16AM by Katrinacorinne http://bit.ly/2DNQ5Zg