My(30F) Fiance's(29M) sister (27F) is the suspect in various things going missing, including my sons piggybank. He sees no wrong in this, please help.

This’ll be long, so please bare with me. I’m using a throwaway because my fiance knows my account. I’m sorry if this is jumbled mess, if the format is weird, what have you as I’m feeling an array of emotions right now and just need to get this off my chest.

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For a bit of backstory, “Andrew” and I met in college and instantly hit it off. We dated for a good chunk of years before he popped the question this past Christmas. Obviously, I said yes! During our dating period, I met his father and younger sister. They’re not twins, but “Sara” always said she felt like they were because they grew up really close due to being 2 years apart. They roomed together in college & probably would have stayed that way if not for meeting and soon after moving in with me. Sara wasn’t too fond of me at the start, but we’ve hit a point where we’re more friendly with one another. I wouldn’t consider her a friend, but I didn’t hate her either. So when she called Andrew one night saying how their father was kicking her out, I did admittedly feel bad for her. She’s 27 but has gone without working no more than two weeks at a single job before saying it was too much for her anxiety before quitting. Andrew and his father don’t get along, so I didn’t pry too much about it, family as a whole is a sensitive topic with him. What he did tell me and what I gathered though, is that he (their dad) was sick of babying Sara and was pushing her out of the nest, so to speak. He was firm on his decision, so we extended an invitation for Sara to move in with us while she got off her feet. BAD IDEA.

Prior to her moving in with us and back when she was still living with their father, things would go missing, sometimes of value, other times not. It was a constant issue and really came to head when my engagement ring vanished one evening. No one really knew who to blame because it happened at a family gathering, friends and family showed up so it honestly could have been anyone. Andrew and I talked to as many people as we could about it, citing that we wouldn't go to the police if it was returned. Low and behold, Sara magically found it “in the washer” and not on the kitchen sink where I had left it when I was doing the dishes. I spoke to Andrew about it and he swore up and down his sister would never do that, I believed him. Prior to that, it was believed one of Sara’s many sketchy friends was stealing from them. After she moved in with us, I started noticing things go missing, be moved or used. I’d ask Sara and Andrew because we’re the only three living in the house, but both denied it. Okay, well, whatever. Maybe I’m just over thinking it, right? Wrong. Shit really hit the fan one morning when my 3 year old son’s piggy bank went MISSING. Andrew would never steal from his son, so it had to be Sara. I texted her telling her I wanted to talk to her while she was out. She didn’t come home that night. The next morning, Andrew comes to wake me up to tell me we need to talk. He leads me to the livingroom where Sara is sitting, looking down and very obviously flushed. Before I could even get a word in, she mutters “I didn’t steal (son’s name)’s fucking piggybank.” Uh..I never said you did? All I said in that text was I wanted to talk to you….

Reddit, I’ll be honest. I’m over it. I’m over sharing my house with someone I don’t trust around my stuff, let alone my kid. I regret ever offering her to stay here. It’s been 3 months with no progress. She hasn’t even started looking into jobs, she sits at home all day watching OUR Netflix, on OUR couch, eating OUR food. I’m just so fucking over it. Andrew doesn’t see it this way, he says her anxiety is really bad, that these things take time. Anxiety? You mean the anxiety that only flairs up when work is mentioned, not when she’s going out every other night to party with randoms that were met off Tinder all while acting like you’re 21 and not 30 in less than 3 years? I try telling him that these things aren’t issolated, that his expensive watch his late mother gave him somehow vanished not long after she moved in is suspicious, how my personal makeup is being used isn’t by him unless he needs to tell me something and most importantly the fact that someone actually stole less than $50 in change from a child! I’m at a loss as to what to do anymore. Help me talk some sense into him before I completely go off the rails & boot the woman out the damn door.

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TL;DR My fiance's sister has a questionable history of stealing. She's been babied her whole life with everyone thinking she can do no wrong. I mistakenly let her into our home only for her to steal from me, my soon to be husband and now my 3 year old. Fiance says it couldn't have been her, I call bullshit.

Submitted April 27, 2019 at 01:44AM by AngryMotherOf1 http://bit.ly/2IIOPe5