I [21M] accidentally reported my BF's [22M] mother [55F] to CPS during therapy--not sure whether to tell him

Hi all, so while I was in therapy yesterday I was complaining to my therapist about my BF's mother. I mentioned some things that she has said and done to her children, one of which is under 18, and my therapist informed me that she is legally obligated to report what she's heard to child protective services.

I would rather not get into the details of the mother's treatment of her family (particularly the youngest child), but I always considered it to be in that grey area where "yes, it's terrible, but I don't think CPS would find anything substantial." Other family members (the older siblings and their SO's) have considered calling CPS, but the general consensus is that it would make things worse for the kid. Also, both the mom and the dad have warned the kid not to say anything to CPS because they would "break the family up". (As soon as I actually delineated all of this (+ the actual acts of abuse and neglect) to my therapist, and now that I'm saying it again here, it sounds really really really effed up.)

I'm still not sure if CPS is going to find anything, because the mother is super good at gas-lighting the kid and again, I don't know if her behavior actually constitutes abuse. But I do know that CPS showing up at the family's home is going to start a storm of drama, and it will probably be traced back to me, because the mom and I really don't get along.

Anyway, I'm not sure exactly how to proceed with this in my relationship with my BF. Should I tell him now, or ever? Should I act like it wasn't me? I know when he finds out he's going to suspect me, as will the rest of his family. I'm also worried about any backlash from the parents against my BF if they think it was me. Should I prepare him for that?

Thank you for reading. Any advice or similar experiences would be greatly appreciated.

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TL;DR: I was venting about my BF's mother's awful treatment of her family, and my therapist informed me that she's legally obligated to report it to CPS. I totally understand this and agree, but I'm worried that this could hurt my relationship with my BF and I'm not sure whether I should tell him what happened?

Submitted April 25, 2019 at 10:56AM by no_disintegration http://bit.ly/2PsL4tD