I [23M] am not happy living with my SO [24F] of 2.5yrs. I do the housework while she takes care of her horses.

Last May we moved to a new area for her work, and bought a fixer-upper (her name on paper). It needed a barn for her 3 horses and some serious renovations. So over the summer I built a large barn, and did the majority of the renovating myself while she went to work. That was a long laborious summer. We both share the mortgage/gas payments. I have $15k+ tied up in all the building/renovating.

There is a 30x40 shop that I store my business inventory. Pallet racking, forklift, the whole 9 yards. I also have my 12x32 woodshop moved to the property. I have tens of thousands in assets there is what I’m trying to say.

The issue:

The winter was hard on both of us. We weren't ready for it. I had to snowblow for an hour with the tractor nearly every other day. We’re in real snow country, 3-4ft of it. Always needing to shovel the mailbox out. Anyways, the crux of it is she always has her horses to attend to before work and at night. Now, I normally even help with watering. However, when it comes to the house always I have to take care of it. Practically my part-time job. If the tractor, laundry machine, etc breaks. Snowblowing. Getting Firewood. Doing dishes. Sweeping, any new renovations, etc. Once she’s done with horses and work, she’s already too exhausted to do more (I also care more about cleanliness). House is always a mess if I don't do anything. We communicate decent enough but I’m the one free here during the day, and if something needs to be done or I can’t stand it any longer I do it. She has two cats and I have to deal with them constantly jumping on my desk/laptop. It is effecting my ability to take care of my business and I hate it. We’ve discussed it and it mostly ends up being empty words. I don’t know what to do. I love her but I can’t continue like this. Financially seems like a nightmare. Our plan is to flip this place in a few years, and move south.

What should I do?

TL;DR GF has horses to take care of and it's leaving me with all the housework. I can't stand it anymore.

Submitted March 28, 2019 at 09:16AM by Victure https://ift.tt/2JOKzLn