Little sister [15] always lies, and this time lied about some serious and terrible stuff and honestly I’m [18m] kinda pissed. Should i be? Should I talk to/confront her about it?

Some backstory: Basically my one little sister has a lying issue. She’s done this for as long as I can remember, and we all know about it. They moved far away like 3 years ago and until then, i was never super close with any of them. It was like a normal half sibling relationship i guess. We texted every couple of weeks and talked sometimes. I visited them for a couple weeks last summer and got really close with my other little sister (13. side note, but is it weird that i’m so close with her considering the age gap? part of me thinks it is but oh well.) and she became like one of my best friends, and that upset the older one that we didn’t hang out or talk that much.

Since that vacay, i text the older one every couple of weeks and the other one like every other day. After i talk with the older one, i often have to talk with the younger one and have to fact check with her, since she’s always saying some dumb shit that i don’t know if it’s true.

I went down there last week and almost didn’t spend time with her again, but on the last night my other sister went to sleep early so i went to her room and we started talking. We talked for like 2 hours about some pretty serious stuff (her parents cheating, abuse, other relationships, and childhood trauma) and i tried putting the thought that anything she was saying could be a lie aside, but then i caught her in a stupid small lie and called her out for it, and that made me question everything else we talked about. After i got back, i talked to my grandma about her parents cheating and sx abuse when we were younger to see if it was true, and nope. Last night i talked to my other sister about it and other stuff too and again, no. The thought that she made all that terrible stuff up and I opened up and was honest with her just pisses me off. Maybe it’s my fault for trying to trust her.

I was gonna text her this:

hey

so i’ve gotta be honest with you. why do you always lie and over-exaggerate stuff? like all the time. i tried to have a real conversation with you the last night i was there, and i tried putting the thought that you could be making it all up aside, but then i caught you in a lie, and after thinking about it, i’m pretty sure most of what you said isn’t true. you wondered why im closer with (other sister) and don’t talk to you as much and it’s because i can’t believe anything that comes out of your mouth. i love you dude but it really hurts not to be able to believe anything you say. you need to stop

but i really don’t want to hurt her or start any drama. should i just let her lie and forget about it? I want to have a closer relationship with her because i know it hurts her that we don’t, but it’s hard when i can’t believe what comes out of her mouth. I’m honestly fine with leaving our relationship as is.

tl;dr: sister lied about terrible stuff and i’m mad. should i be? should i talk to her about it?

Submitted March 29, 2019 at 08:32AM by SKyPuffGM https://ift.tt/2JZhyMO