my sister [27] manipulates and wears down my parents until a point where she can get away with theft of food, MONEY, items or caring for her 2 year old son that she actively ignores.

Hi, my sister is 27, she moved back home two years ago after a having a baby broke up with her Ex. The dad, while far from perfect (no job, lives at home) is an ok person.

My sisters always been a bit angry, screaming matches at family discussion, stealing large amounts of money >300$, selling items (loss of pretty much all my mums gold at once point.), fights over.... Nothing, constant deflections and redirections, when anything comes up and lately a increasing amount of resentment towards my mum, while simultaneously expecting my parents to be a second mother and father.

Lately she's sits on her phone, completely zoned out of the world around her and her son who as a perfectly normal and kind of great 2 year old does a lot of 2 year old things. Climbing on tables, running etc, things that are fine... If they are supervised or parented/stopped.

Generally she will sit there on her phone until another parent jump in or wait until the very last second and scream. STOP . A comment made about this is met with screaming or beratement to my mum or deflection, really really irritating deflection and/or redirection. Like I cannot tell if she is stupid or a genius level of deflections for instance, she eats everything, every gift , every chip, every biscuit, every chocolate etc.

Tonight she opened my mums gift and ate a large part of it.... When pulled up about it she managed to redirect the conversation into how dare someone found the rubbish and put it by her door, and try at make it out that I had somehow planned this to get her in trouble. Seems easy to argue right? nope, not when you scream, burst into tears. My parents know its not true of course but literally have no idea what to do but reiterate the point they were trying to make which leads to a feedback loop until one of them is too tired of the cycle and leaves or gives up.

I mentioned money and gold before which In the grand scheme of things makes chocolate inconsequential but the argument is exactly the same no matter what. Hell she gambled 565 dollars of my own money in app purchases, to which I have to push to a point of argument to get a small payment back after a year. Its shit, maybe 1-3 times a week, Food, dirty nappies being left around, money, asking to help with the dishes etc, literally becomes a point of contentment to the point of one-sided screaming, crying and frankly manipulation

Like all people like this, when she is good she is good but its getting really painful around here. I need to move out but I just started graduate studies (not really an excuse it needs to happen just got get the money).

The obvious answers…. kick her (or I leave but thats still leave my parents in a shitshow ) or get her therapy. BUT. HOW. what happens to her son. my parents don't know I am writing this, but they are literally at wits ends with her.

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what do you think, what would you do send help . Ask questions etc sorry for the spleilling und ,""Gramma
TD:LR my sister manipulates and wears down my parents until a point where she can get away with theft of food, MONEY, items or caring for her son that she actively ignores.

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Submitted March 29, 2019 at 03:38AM by mikeybea https://ift.tt/2FKHBDu