My brother [33M] harasses me [23M] for money. Yet I can't afford to fund him while I feel bad because he's most likely going to die or need a transplant in 10 years

My brother is 10 years older than me. When he was 18 he was diagnosed with kidney disease and given a diet to follow. Instead of taking it easy/following the diet he started black out drinking, chain smoking, and taking drugs. Now in his 30s he also has inherited gout from dad's side of the family and got hit with Ross river fever a few years ago that affects his joints hence he hobbles around like an 80 year old man, he gets swelling and can get bed ridden for days. He can't save money to even save his life (in a literal sense). Ex: he got 2k on his tax return then bought gifts for everyone and went gambling instead of just saving it.

He was working then ended up getting too sick hence now he's on benefits. He won't follow the doctor's advice of not drinking and smoking or follow the diet or take meds (besides pain killers/anti- inflammatory drugs) He won't get counselling yet always asks me for $20s $50s and $100s and smokes. He somewhat pays me back but he can't afford to be smoking, drinking, or borrowing money. Today he tried borrowing money off me I said no yet I felt bad.

I'm letting him stay with me soon, I want to save money. I'm saving for travelling and study next year he'll be living with me rent free. An issue is he will also keep annoying you until you just give him money just to shut him up. Like sometimes I want to beat him up because he's so awful but i also don't want to attack a cripple. He causes stress with his nagging and whining while I feel bad because he could be dead or one foot in the grave in 10 years due to his own stupidity.

I don't know what to do.

TL;DR

Brother was diagnosed with kidney disease, inherited gout, and got Ross river fever hence making him sick. Yet all he does is smoke, drink, and borrow money when he can't afford to then hounds me for money. I feel bad because he's sick but i need to save money.

Submitted November 14, 2018 at 07:36PM by Didgeridont_m8 https://ift.tt/2Pv2bhv