My [20F] mom bought a gift for my abusive grandmother and said that it was from me, after I refused to buy her anything

Just to clarify - my grandmother isn't my mom's mother, but mother-in-law, which makes this story even more bizarre.

My mom is the biggest enabler you'll meet. She's sucking up to my abusive father, his abusive mother, and pretty much everyone else, since the whole family is shit. Grandmother (let's call her GG as in "garbage grandmother") obviously hates her, and hates me as well, because I look like her, and is trying her best to make our lives a living hell. It doesn't help that we live pretty close (she didn't want to separate from her dear son) so she's a pretty regular guest in our house.

My mom's father died around 6 months ago, so she went to visit her family and see how they were dealing with the losses. After GG found out that mom was actually spending time with her own family, and not serving her, she lost her shit. She came into the house, told me how glad she was that my grandpa died, that she hoped that grandma would die soon as well, and how she's sorry that mom didn't die 20 years ago, because that way she wouldn't marry my dad. She said a bunch of awful things and I kicked her out of the house, told her that she should be ashamed of herself and slammed the door in her face.

When mom came back, I told her everything. I cried for hours, and she just said that she didn't care about what GG said and continued to suck up to her as usual. However, I made it clear that I didn't want anything to do with her, not now, not ever again, for as long as she lives. I haven't talked to her ever since.

GG has been whining since that day how hurt she was feeling that her own granddaughter would treat her that way. Mom would comfort her, but she didn't force me to reconcile. Until now.

I went on a trip recently and bought some gifts for people important to me. GG knew about that, and mom had been nagging me for days to buy her at least something, it didn't have to be expensive, it didn't even have to be honest. You know, just because. Of course, I said absolutely not, but after I came home and everyone got their gifts, GG showed up at the door with a small box and kept saying how happy she was that I finally realized that family was everything in life and how special she felt that I mailed her a gift before everyone else got theirs.

Of course, I was so confused, but I knew exactly what happened. I didn't want to cause a scene in front of everyone, but oh GOD how ready was I to start a war right then and there. I just gave my mom a death stare and she pretended she didn't see it.

I just can't believe she did that. She knew how hurt I was by GG and she still HAD TO suck up to her. I mean, I don't give a shit, but she did it IN MY NAME now. I feel so hurt. I haven't talked to my mom all day, and I'm not sure I will any time soon. Her only excuse was "she's family too". Not my family. I don't give a shit.

TL;DR: Grandmother is abusive af and my mom (her daughter-in-law) keeps sucking up to her. I went NC with grandmother after she crossed a line and made sure mom understood. Went on a trip, didn't buy grandmother a gift, mom went ahead and mailed her something in my name.

Submitted November 27, 2018 at 05:21PM by fantasy_is_reality https://ift.tt/2SfdDe8