So lately when my girlfriend and me are meeting common friends I hear about things my girlfriend is in the process of arranging or is wanting to do, furthermore she is talking about issues or how she is feeling bad lately and those times are the first time I'm hearing about it.
First of all we agreed to move to another city together, but since things are taking a bit longer (1 or 2 months) she wanted to get a short term room (for 1 to 3 months) in that city so she doesn't have to commute that much to work. More than fair and I agreed to that. However, this weekend she just told our friends she was having viewings of a room for a period of 6 months and another one for almost a year. I was really surprised since we agreed on moving into an apartment end beginning of January, but all of a sudden it looks like that won't be possible till like beginning of June.
Furthermore she is feeling bad lately and I've been asking and trying to talk to her, she admits at being sad but says it will pass and it is not has bad as last year (she was also feeling really bad last year, combination of missing some family and the dark winter days) and that I shouldn't worry. But this weekend she was just telling our friends that she was feeling like shit and it felt just like last year or even worse.
Also she told our friends out of the blue that for Christmas she probably will leave to visit some family overseas for like 2 weeks. I'm fine with her going and I understand that a person wants to see some family if you don't see them that much, but she doesn't even tell me while we are living together. I felt like a idiot boyfriend sitting there when my friends asked if I was going as well. It was the first time I heard about it that she was planning to go and already arranged some stuff.
I've told her that it is not cool that I have to find out about stuff like that when we are with friends. Especially if certain things I repeatedly ask for or want to start a conversation about. All she says is that I won't have to make such a big deal out of it and that she doesn't want to bother me all the time. I'm really lost for words, the last 3 weeks this is all of a sudden happening, while she never has been like this. Specially the whole room situation got me really angry, and she says I've to chill since it are only viewings and nothing official yet.
Am I being unreasonable here or not? It's my first serious relationship and I love her to death, but I never encountered this kind of issues/behavior. I don't know how to cope with this, because she makes me feel like I'm blowing things up.
**TL:DR** I'm finding out about things my GF is doing/planning/feeling when we are with friends that one would expect to share in a relationship. I'm upset, she thinks I'm overreacting.
Submitted November 15, 2018 at 03:50AM by Gunnen-Haney https://ift.tt/2OKWkiR
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