I'm trying to keep this as short as possible. Frequent lurker on this sub, but never thought I would have to post.
Last Tuesday a girl and I matched on a popular dating app. I wasn't going to like her profile initially, because it was pretty empty. She was pretty and physically my type, so I decided to like her back to see if it was mutual. It was and we ended up hitting it off for the next few days, calling and texting.
I was completely overzealous with my compliments, but she seemed more than willing to receive them whenever I thought of a "smooth" thing to say. However, she hinted that I was going overboard at times and needed to tone it down, but it kind of got lost in translation and I continued to compliment her whenever I had the chance. Most of the time her replies were extremely positive to my compliments, so communication was definitely an issue early on. She told me during our date that it was weird and to have "low expectations".
Fast forward to today. We met up to do a local outdoor festival for the winter. I was late by 30 minutes because I got lost along the way and then we couldn't find each other for another 10 minutes, so it already wasn't a good start. Once I got this out of the way, conversation was good and extremely interesting at times, so it's not like we had long periods of silence, of course, until after we had left the event.
Right after we left she mentioned that I should go home, but I said I had to go where she was going anyways, so we walked together to a nearby bus-stop. I previously agreed to accompany her until her final stop on local public transportation, but we got stuck waiting for the bus for a while and then had to walk a good ways away to catch another one. Simply put, the weather was bad but we were still keeping up conversation, so I had no issues. That was until we got on the bus together and she pretty much ignored me until we got to our final destination. She said goodbye, sat down on a bench and told me to not wait with her for her train, so I decided to check my phone to make sure I was going the right way and briefly left to check if it was actually the right way. I came back a few seconds later and told her my goodbyes, gave this awkward half hug because she did not stand up and left knowing that was the last time I would see her.
Not surprisingly she later texted me and said she had a nice time but requested to not meetup again, due to us failing to "mesh well in person". I said my goodbyes and then blocked her number. I really don't know what I did wrong or if anything I did or didn't do was actually a deal-breaker. What can I do better for my next date? I'm mainly looking for advice as I am pretty clueless given my inexperience, while she had four dates under her belt.
Tldr; I met this girl on a dating app, we seemed to click and have a lot in common. However, we met up recently. Everything seemed to go wrong initially, but things got better and then quickly got worse. She said she wasn't interested in seeing me again. I then said my goodbyes and blocked her
edit 1: grammar & spelling.
edit 2: I read most of the comments and wondered why I even asked what I did wrong, when I knew the answers already. I definitely wasn't picking up the cues and that came off as needy/entitled to something, part of that is due to my inexperience with dating and part of that was just plain ol' ignorance. Some posters pegged me up as this big creep, when I really don't have any dating and/or relationship experience, so I consider myself as a work in progress in that regard. Most of the future dating advice that many commentators provided was extremely helpful, such as; practice, punctuality and trying to be more attentive to another person's feelings, as to avoid this situation again. I actually have another date with a different girl, so I am looking forward to implementing these changes! Thank you to everyone who read and commented on my post.
Submitted November 27, 2018 at 08:06PM by PhantomPhysics https://ift.tt/2DXRzSc
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