Hi Reddit,
Created a burner account for this question. I'm a bi guy who's been seeing another guy (M/26) steadily for the past month. I have so much fun with him; he's a beautiful person inside and out who makes me feel beautiful inside and out as well. We enjoy ourselves whether we're out with friends or having a quiet AM or PM in. We're physically close, intellectually close, and I cherish every minute I get to spend with him as I continue to get to know the ins and outs of his head and his heart. We always make plans for our next time to see each other and I find myself constantly checking the clock because I can't wait to be with him again. I like who I am, and I especially like how I feel when we're together.
If you can't tell already-- I think I might be falling for him, which scares me a little. I've never been one to develop feelings this fast, and we haven't had "the talk" where we solidify that we're "in a relationship" yet. That said, I have no interest in seeing anyone else and knowing how often we see each other I'd be VERY impressed if he found the time to see other people as well. But overall, I'm kinda nervous that he's constantly on my mind. Even now, I'm sitting at work and have taken it upon myself to post on reddit about him and these feelings.
So the overall advice I'm seeking is: when is the right time to develop strong feelings (akin to love) for another person, and is it healthy to find a way to fall a little less hard for someone? I'm 100% sure that I will be in love with this person in the very near future, but is a month too soon? What can I possibly do to clear my head and focus on other things and not just wanting to talk to and be with him.
I feel crazy asking and this is not normal for me to like someone so hard and so fast! But thank you for the help!
EDIT: I really appreciate all of your responses so far! My plan is to tell him how honored I would be if I could call him my boyfriend and vice versa. The reason being all of your words of encouragement, and a memory of last weekend where after celebrating his birthday at a bar about five blocks away from his apartment, a friend his offered us a ride back to his place since it was so cold that night. He asked me "What do you think? Do you want a ride back?" I told him it doesn't matter to me, sensing he didn't actually want the ride. He then told his friend, "Thank you for the offer, but I'd rather walk home with aycheewawa1990 so I can hold his hand." And that's exactly what we did. Obviously, someone who wants to brave the elements with me just for an extra 10 minutes of hand-holding has similar feelings for me as well. :) Again, big thanks for the courage, y'all!
TL;DR I think I'm falling for someone I've been dating for a month too fast and am looking for productive ways for my brain and heart to cool their jets.
Submitted November 14, 2018 at 09:13AM by aycheewawa1990 https://ift.tt/2zRExkR
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